To tell or not to tell?

[holdenmonty]

I was just thinking about your manager and it's strange how I'm in a similar boat now. I have hid my symptoms for so long that now that I am having a hard time hiding them and going to appointments with my T it's like my supervisor is starting to expect perfection from me and for me to constantly be working on something even though my work load goes up and down constantly. It's these un realistic expectations.

 

[Eleanor]

I don't know how the laws work in Canada. What I can tell you is that IF you email specific detailed reports to HR no one there can claim that they didn't know. I'd blind CC all the emails to your personal email address as well, so you have a record.

If the harassment is ongoing that will likely make a difference to the complaint being heard in April, and documentation is crucial for that.

What are the realistic odds that everyone doesn't know now?

Remember, HR is NOT your friend. They are, however, important witnesses in any legal proceeding and they mostly know enough not to lie outright. PLUS it is their job to handle these kinds of things appropriately.

Remember at the same time, your manager is your boss, and you have to keep being a good employee and a good scout. When they suggest stuff to do, go ahead. It is an excellent opportunity to practice having good boundaries. With the manager, as much as you can (and I know this is like, THE ISSUE) try NOT to "bite the hook" and get pulled in.

Find out what your employers policies are on this stuff, when they don't follow them, put it in the record. Don't give them room to deny ANYTHING. Writing is power. And you are GOOD at writing.

And on the emotional side, it is just awful. Try try try to distract yourself when you start to "ruminate." I know. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.:blackeye:

 

[Glenn R.]

SheilaKathy: Fortunately, you live in a much more progressive country than the U.S. Several friends who went there to avoid the criminal Vietnam War ended up staying, even after pardoned. America likes to brag it is the "greatest country on Earth," and while that is true when it comes to wealth and military might, we tend to lag 30 years behind Canada and European nations on virtually every social issue, including mental health. Had I not had such a difficult time with cold weather, I would have joined my friends there 45 years ago!

 

[Rumors]

@Notsowild
I don't know what job you hold, but if you admittedly are sleep deprived it may be the supervisors duty to send you home or otherwise. Ugh. I just worry that giving the wrong people too much information could hurt you worse in the long run. You said you are part of a union??? I would read up about what your Union rules say about those things.
See, if your job was putting jet fuel into a plane while next to a flame (I realize this is far fetched but it makes my point) your employer or supervisor may be required to take you off of that job if they know you suffer from sleep issues and it effects your daily life. OR, if you are the person that makes sure the guy gets the jet fuel into the plane next to the flame they may be required to relieve you. Otherwise, they hold a certain amount of liability under a negligence clause that could render them potentially liable for any accident or injury during your shift. Please just be careful and maybe seek advice from council before you go any further. I am quite sure you are great at your job and I would hate for that to be taken away bc some putz decided that they were in charge!
Hang tight!!!

 

[Notsowild]

Well I told the two girls who were involved. I kept it to " I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder "- don't think they understood. I have " anxiety and insomnia". Also said I was super sensitive to the meds the doctor was giving me. Never mentioned my psych doc or T.

It was good I think it brought us closer. It felt really good for me to not be hiding it anymore. Hope it doesn't bite me in the ass or arse lol. So far so good.