Tomorrow Is My Last Session With T

[Reds]

I have accepted the job in another province and I am off to starting a new life with new people. I am happy but I am also sad that I will be seeing my t for the last time tomorrow. I got her a thank you card and I wrote a few words of appreciation.

I am not sure how the session will go tomorrow, because i am already emotional and in tears. I am hoping to ask her for telephone sessions and I am not sure she will agree to it. I am so emotional, I can't hold back my tears. I will miss her so much.

If you have lived a life like mine where the only love you received was coupled with pain, when you do get introduced to love without pain it feels so good that no part of you would want to let it go. This is the only love and kindness I know which is not coupled with pain. She was just too patient with me, I don't know how things will be without her but I believe I will be ok.

 

[digger]

Good luck with your new job/new life :) Hopefully a positive experience with this T will help you feel more able to access therapy for yourself in your new place.

 

[WillyKat]

It's ok to feel what you're feeling. Sometimes making positive changes in your life come with some pain. And I'm sorry you're feeling down about it.

Can you ask your T for a referral in your new town? Maybe she knows someone that practices there. You never know.

I know it hurts a bit but I'm happy for you.

 

[Reds]

@WillyKat I know this sounds ridiculous but my biggest fear is her referring me to someone else. I feel that will be permanently terminating the relationship. I think it will be better if she gave my sessions over the telephone. I do not know anyone where I am going and I think it will be comforting to talk to her and it will help me adjust to the new environment.

Maybe when I am settled and things are easier I will be able to see someone else.

 

[Abstract]

I think it is the most normal thing in the world for you to feel very concerned about leaving this t and finding another one considering your past in general and your past experiences in T. Do you have abandonment issues do you think?

I think phone sessions may be a good initial way to help the transition but they won't and probably shouldn't replace face to face therapy with a therapist for you.

 

[scout86]

Best of luck with your new life! I've moved a lot and kind of like it. I figure I get to start over again, where no one knows me, no one knows what to expect, and I can try (again) to be the person I really want to be, without having to change anyone's mind.

I hope your T will both be willing to stay in touch with you AND be able to recommend someone where you're going to be. Since she knows you well, and would (I would hope) know the new therapist, is seems like that would be a good way to get started without having to do a lot of "therapist shopping."

And, by the way, remember you have a bunch of online friends too, who aren't going anywhere.

 

[Reds]

@Abstract I have huge abandonment issues. I think feeling abandoned is my biggest problem.

@scout86, thank you. It makes me feel better to know that I will have all of you to talk to when things are hard

 

[DMerish]

If you have lived a life like mine where the only love you received was coupled with pain, when you do get introduced to love without pain it feels so good that no part of you would want to let it go. This is the only love and kindness I know which is not coupled with pain. She was just too patient with me, I don't know how things will be without her but I believe I will be ok

Oh Reds,

Your moving is a big step. Doing so is a wonderful testament of your T's knowledge and character and how much you've grown. Your T was never "too patient" - She gave you the kindness and patience you deserved, as well as model from which you can measure yourself and your future relationships on.

If I could, I would like Scout's post a thousand times!

:hug:
Drew

 

[gone]

I know a lot of Ts and clients who use Skype. Some think it's excellent, others thinks it's okay. Might be worth a try for a while if you have access to a computer and privacy.

 

[macca]

Hey Reds - congratulations on your new job! I haven't got any suggestions that haven't already been said, I just want to say that I hope your transition goes well, and to echo Scout in saying we are all here for you!

 

[Reds]

Just had my last session. It was too emotional. I gave her the card. She gave me a book. And she said she was happy to do phone sessions and that she will call me when she's that side so we can have a face to face session.

I always have strange hairstyles so she asked me to send her a pic of my hair everytime I change styles.

I am really sad

 

[macca]

Oh Reds, it must have been so hard. I'm so glad she can do phone sessions, that's great news. :hug: if that's ok.