General Treading Lightly? Hubby Moody

[Jen]

Hi Jods thanks for asking I am not feeling that great today but I have to soldier on as we own a business we have to run and Hubby coudnt or wouldnt get out of bed so I have no choice in the matter!
Here we go again!
Jen

 

[Damiea]

that sucks Jen.. what kind of business do you run? hang in there!!

 

[Jen]

Hi Damiea thanks yeh we sell supplies to the signwriters in the area its a good little business and can be run by one person most of the time sometimes two people have to be here for the lifting. We bought the business thinking it would give hubby something to do and give him back some reason to get out of bed but the novelty seems to have worn of. I can handle it but I am recovering myself after major surgery recently. I know his Dads death has upset him and will affect him. But I am not a sufferer and I KNOW I have to get out of bed or we lose our business and our house:dontknow:
Jen

 

[Kathy]

Welcome back Jen, I am glad the trip went well. I am certain your husband will need a few days to recover. Hopefully then he will be back to helping with the business. Do continue to take good care of yourself as much as you are able.

 

[Jen]

He said to me last night that he knows he is cranky but wants me to give him space I have no problem with that he can have as much space as he likes! I said to him that he knows that I am there if he needs to talk or a hug he asked me to leave him alone.
Thats his problem he doesnt talk about his feelings he just lets things bulid up and up!
Jen

 

[Damiea]

I know its not alwase good to keep things in and let them build up.. but sometimes people need that time to sort stuff out in there heads first before going to someone to talk. With a death in the family I think this might be more so then when its something else that happens. I would just talk normal day to day stuff.. and be ready if and when he does break down and cry/talk or whatever. Just don't let it go on for months and months sort of thing! I do think in general guys deal with issues different them females.. they are brought up and taught to be strong and not show emotion. Hang in there and make sure to do what you can for yourself too!

 

[jods]

So how are you doing Jen? Are you able to find some time for you to go out with the girls & just let it out.

You know the signs & pattern of your hubby's illness. If you think you need to contact his doc or Martha or a friend of his to help him through this then go for it. You are still recovering too & I'm sure this isn't helping you much either. It's ok to ask for someone to share the load when you know you aren't 100% to deal with all this.

Sending you big gentle hugs!

 

[Jen]

Hi Jods yeh I am doing ok a couple of little setbacks health wise but getting better slowly!
I havent been able to get together with the girls lately as been busy with the business and with hubbys dad passing away. Hope to get with them next week! I got an email of Martha to tell hubby that they have a support group every Monday afternoon I am going to talk to him about it?
Thanks Jen

 

[Jen]

Well he hit the wall yesterday I am trying to do the business myself but I needed him to come and lift something into the ute for me for a delivery. He dragged himself out of bed about 11am and came in and seemed ok for a bout an hour then when we had done the delivery and came back to the shop his mood changed. I dont even know what triggered it off something stupid about not liking how I had a in and out tray on the desk?
He hung around for a little while I could see he was really getting worked up I told him to go home as I was ok. He said he could feel himself getting shitty so went home. I got home after work and he was crashed on the lounge he went to bed then got up about midnight for a snack then back to bed? I am really going to try and get through work without ringing him over the next couple of days I will ring my daughter I just dont want him here at the moment!
Jen

 

[jods]

Sorry to hear about your hubby Jen.
Good idea about keeping him out of your way at work, you don't need the extra stress too. Please don't lift anything that you shouldn't. I'm sure your daughter will only be to glad to help out her mum so don't be shy in asking her!

Big hugs!

 

[Jen]

Thanks Jods he rang me this morning and said he thinks he has not been great as he just realised he hasnt been taking all his meds properly? He reckons he will come in tomorrow and help we will see?
Jen

 

[Jen]

Well this morning after he dragged himself out of bed he said he felt a bit better that lasted 30 seconds! I got yelled at for moving his water bottle to a different area on the bench come on! I am not going to go through the emotional abuse again he told me I am self centred I have no idea what he is going through he had so much anger this morning while yelling at me! I think I might take off for the weekend somewhere where I dont get treated like shit!
jen