Triggers/dissociation At School

[digger]

Feel free not to answer if you don't want, but can I ask what you went to the psychiatrist for initially, or what you are being seen for now, if they don't know about any of this or about the dissociation? What does he/she think the situation is that you are seeing them for?

Do you still have the option of seeing the therapist you mentioned? And were you able to see them alone?

 

[scout86]

I never really thought to tell my therapist I guess I don't know why but I can be alone with her but not my psychiatrist

This is purely a guess. I'm guessing the difference is that your psychiatrist DOES prescribe drugs and a responsible adult has to be in on what you're taking, why, and what the possible side effects are etc.

"Therapy" is a different deal. That's between you and the therapist and their job is to look out for YOU, they don't answer to your parents. Part of the point is that "your parents" are quite often one of the reason you need to SEE a therapist to begin with.

 

[anteaterwaltz]

My parents made me see a psychiatrist because I was self harming but then I didn't know I was being abused and I didn't know that was the reason and I did tell my one therapist kinda what happened but she or my dad didn't do anything so I still didn't know. I could go to my therapist again it's just not be regular.

 

[digger]

I could go to my therapist again it's just not be regular.

This sounds like it could be a good step forward for you. Do you think she would be someone you might be able to talk to about this?

 

[scout86]

I could go to my therapist again

If you can do that, I think it would be a good way to start! You need someone you can talk all this through with, without having to worry about who they're going to tell.

What you're going through is something LOTS of people go through. That doesn't make it easy, and it doesn't make it "nothing". It just means you have company.

Your therapist's job is to help you. They can do that best if you're honest with them.

 

[anteaterwaltz]

Well I think if I see her again I will try to mention something about it but I would want to go to someone who specializes in this so want to eventually go to someone else but I guess I could tell my therapist that.

 

[digger]

Perhaps you could ask her how you'd go about getting referred to someone appropriate. That could be another good conversation opener for you.

What age are you now, I don't know what 11th grade is and am wondering how far off you are from being able to have more autonomy in this?

 

[anteaterwaltz]

I turned 17 last month and I would be able to go to a counseling center on my own if I could drive but I haven't gotten my license yet which is a reason I needed to tell someone so they could at least take me

 

[digger]

What would the process be for setting up an appointment with your current therapist? Is that something you can arrange yourself or do you need your parents to do that?

 

[anteaterwaltz]

I think I can do it myself.

 

[theshadowoftheliving]

I don't know about the details of where you live, but I know that in the US, school counselors actually operate under different laws of confidentiality than regular therapists. AND, many schools have a school therapist that has more training than a guidance counselor. I saw my high school's therapist when I was in high school and it was life saving. He wasn't obligated to report anything other than suicidal intent (which would have been the case with any therapist at any age, anyways) and he always kept my confidentiality. In fact, my parents didn't even know when and if I saw him, which gave me complete control over my treatment. AND, I was under 18. Might be worth it to investigate …..

 

[joeylittle]

If this is helpful: https://www.rainn.org/get-help/national-sexual-assault-hotline
They are a great organization, it's confidential, and they can give you advice (usually) about your counseling rights.
Most states have their own resources as well.

It would be great if you can talk to your therapist about what happened. I'm sorry your dad isn't being helpful at all - you deserve better than that.