Trying To Resist Cutting

[VioletButterfly]

@JEKBreatheandBelieve - It took me time, perspective, and healing to get out of that place you are in. I still can go back there and know that it's by Grace that I'm where I'm at now. It took a great deal of time and many small steps, as @Friday mentions, instead of just one big fixer. It's like the many aspects of our daily existence have to be laid out on the table and examined to see what is going on to determine the motivations that drive each one, so I understand that there is no snapshot that is going to encompass the complexities inherent in living on so many planes simultaneously. Offering gentle hugs, if that is okay by you.

Is it possible to rally the part(s) of you that are supportive, kind, comforting and gentle? Do you have an aspect that is nurturing that might be able to step out in love instead of fear/anger or whatever state motivates the one(s) who only see cutting as a solution? To perhaps facilitate a group discussion regarding the triggers? I heard you when you noted not being in synch with one of your aspects and not being aware, consciously, so I'm just offering this for a time when some may share space.

Thinking of you and hoping you have a better day. Please take gentle care. VB

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

Is it possible to rally the part(s) of you that are supportive, kind, comforting and gentle?

This is what I am going to be putting in to action once I get the parts I need the support from together. It is really tricky because the part that is struggling right now is trapped in her own area where she can't get out and no one can get in. So it will be a matter of the supporting parts to help keep the rule keeper(s) so to speak from stopping her right to take breaks which was originally agreed upon by the rule keeper(s). Don't know if that makes sense, but yes I am going to get help from within and I have communicated this via writing to the struggling part. My therapist is also going to record herself doing a guided meditation of sorts since the one this part likes triggers me so I can't read it to her. I am just frustrated because for a while things were getting better. Thanks for your comments and kindness.

 

[VioletButterfly]

Yes, all of it makes sense to me. I'm glad you have someone to help you work through this difficult state of being and all that it entails. I pray you find healing inside and get to a more peaceful place in your life. Best to you. VB