Relationship Trying to Stay Sane Alone

[PreciousChild]

Hi @Pippi427, I wanted to mention that I heard from my ex. He moved out at the end of August, and we both agreed not to contact each other for a month or two, so it's way different from your situation. But he emailed me recently, and he clearly wanted to connect in some way, but given that he's who he is and doesn't ever want to go to therapy, the exchange was completely flat. He acted like he wrote me almost incidentally, and he backed off when I was lukewarm in my reaction to seeing him again. So even if your ex did reach out, it is very likely that he wouldn't offer much anyway.

Seeing him at the book release will be awkward. I hope you go and make the best of it. I don't expect he'll give you much satisfaction in terms of acting like a caring human being.

 

[Pippi427]

Hi @Pippi427, I wanted to mention that I heard from my ex. He moved out at the end of August, and we both agreed not to contact each other for a month or two, so it's way different from your situation. But he emailed me recently, and he clearly wanted to connect in some way, but given that he's who he is and doesn't ever want to go to therapy, the exchange was completely flat. He acted like he wrote me almost incidentally, and he backed off when I was lukewarm in my reaction to seeing him again. So even if your ex did reach out, it is very likely that he wouldn't offer much anyway.

Seeing him at the book release will be awkward. I hope you go and make the best of it. I don't expect he'll give you much satisfaction in terms of acting like a caring human being.

Thanks for helping me level set. The author of the book knows he's not talking to me any more, but still insists on addressing us as a couple. It's really kind of annoying and re-traumatizing. The book author is an old veteran and knows about L's issues. I wish I could get him to understand the way he's addressing us is causing me pain.

 

[EveHarrington]

The author of the book knows he's not talking to me any more, but still insists on addressing us as a couple. It's really kind of annoying and re-traumatizing.

That’s just disrespectful no matter what the breakup situation!

:hug:

 

[Pippi427]

That’s just disrespectful no matter what the breakup situation!

:hug:

Thank you for validating that. It's really stuck in my head the past week. I was starting to NOT think about it for a change.

 

[PreciousChild]

I was starting to NOT think about it for a change.

That's progress! I do think time helps.

I want to reiterate again that your ex might be very disappointing if you see him at the book party, and he may even act apathetic which is the worst of all.

 

[Pippi427]

That's progress! I do think time helps.

I want to reiterate again that your ex might be very disappointing if you see him at the book party, and he may even act apathetic which is the worst of all.

God. And today he started creeping my Instagram. This is new. Crap crap crap ?

 

[PreciousChild]

Social media is totally off limits for us. We unfriended each other on facebook, and I DO NOT want to see pictures of what he's doing. Stay strong. Know where you stand whether he finally does communicate with you or not.

 

[Pippi427]

The book author contacting him and our anniversary coming up must have me in his mind.

 

[Pippi427]

Social media is totally off limits for us. We unfriended each other on facebook, and I DO NOT want to see pictures of what he's doing. Stay strong. Know where you stand whether he finally does communicate with you or not.

@PreciousChild - I never even told him I had an Instagram account. He found me.

 

[PreciousChild]

@PreciousChild - I never even told him I had an Instagram account. He found me.

Hmm. So it's clear he's been thinking about you. It's hard to know what his intention is. Make sure that you take care of you and your needs whatever he chooses to do.

 

[Friday]

Online stuff is quirky... 2 seconds worth of curiosity? Boom. Satisfied.

Without google & search bars? The passing thoughts of “I wonder how they’re doing?” Were just that. Passing thoughts.

Now? Reach into your pocket and hit search.

Don’t let it throw you.

Block him if you like. But ignoring is fine, also.

 

[Pippi427]

I'm really angry. He does this but refuses to talk to me.