Two weeks gone

[whiteraven]

My T is going to a workshop, and is going to miss my next session. I have a very hard time getting by even during the week, so I don't know how I'm supposed to get by with two.

I recently came to understand that he, along with nearly everyone I've known all my life, have disregarded how I feel when I say that. When I was younger and asked for help with, say, something in school, I would often get a "you'll get through it. You're smart. You always do." Or "you'll do fine on the test. You always do." And it occurred to me that this T is basically doing the same thing. Every time I bring up that I'm having a very hard time between sessions and I need him to help me figure out how to manage (and I've brought it up every session for at least 2 months), he says "we'll continue to work on it." And "see ya next week."

I sent him an email last week and told him I was seriously pissed off because it felt like he was totally disregarding my concerns. He apologized, said that was certainly not his intention, and we ended with "see you in two weeks."

My impulsive reaction is to say "f*ck it" and cancel for the next few weeks. He would understand my anger and frustration then. It reminds me of the people who kill themselves or others to get attention. People only seem to hear when something terrible happens.

I don't know how to get through to him that I need different tools or *something* to help get me through.

 

[WinnieThePoohChris]

I was going to ask what tools you have but that's like askibg what's under your sink

I dont remember who posted it but have been reading about ACT mindfulness Articles & Papers | ACT Mindfully. Not entirely new to me, lots of good information.

Something different to the normal that may help?

 

[whiteraven]

I was going to ask what tools you have but that's like askibg what's under your sink

I dont remember who posted it but have been reading about ACT mindfulness Articles & Papers | ACT Mindfully. Not entirely new to me, lots of good information.

Something different to the normal that may help?

Thanks for responding. I've tried ACT, DBT, and just about every other acronym you can think of. Mindfulness usually helps, but I have trouble getting from how I feel to doing ANYTHING.

 

[WinnieThePoohChris]

I was not going to post anymore, it occurred to me however that sometimes motivating yourself to do anything for yourself is the hardest thing.

Can you do something positive for yourself but for or with someone else?

 

[whiteraven]

Can you do something positive for yourself but for or with someone else?

Thank you for the reminder! I'm going to work on this. Positive for me is hard, but I definitely need to think about it!

 

[WinnieThePoohChris]

I think positive can be anything really as long as its not harming you in some way, allow yourself to do nothing, its OK and positive if that's how you feel.