Uk suicide advice

[anonymous]

I'm in Scotland and wondered what the best thing to do is when you're feeling so awful that you're very close to ending it all. I was very close several times this week and can't guarantee I won't get close again. I don't know the best thing to do because I called Breathing Space but it wasn't helpful. Do I go to A&E instead? Do I phone 111? Because I can't tell my family and emailing Samaritans wasn't helpful either. I just got the impression they just tried to distract me. That's not going to make my problems and intent go away.

 

[Gadgie]

Welcome to the site, I really know how you feel, as I was in the same frame of mind a few nights ago, in fact, truth to be told, Im still there, as are the pills?

I've felt like this before, about two years ago when my wife passed away. Maybe we can help each other out, i also live in Scotland, that's another thing we have in common.

 

[anonymous]

Thanks @gadgie,sorry you're feeling the same way :hug:s

All I know is the helplines didn't help me. I'd also spoken to a CPN and that was useless too.

 

[Suzetig]

If you're very close I'd try presenting at A&E, they may not admit you but would find a psyc/psyc nurse fir you to talk to. Do you have access to a mental health crisis team? They may be useful too. I'd also try calling Breathing Space or the Samaritans again because sometimes it's just not the right person and a new person might be completely different, and useful.

The other thing is to put as many safety measures in place to get you through the night and see your GP first thing tomorrow. Just turn up at the surgery and tell them how you're feeling and ask to see a doctor. The other thing to bear in mind is that in your current mindset no one thing might feel helpful, because you're feeling so low so try lots of different things and rather than looking for something that will change your feelings, looks for something that keeps you safe for right now, the next 5 minutes, the 5 minutes after that.

 

[Gadgie]

Aye! but like I've said before, the only people who can really understand, are fellow sufferers, people who have been there.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not belittling the professional people who help us, it's just that they are lucky enough not to have PTSD.

 

[A little lost]

I found emailing Samaritans to be a waste of time tbh, it actually could take up to 48 hours to get a reply. I phoned the Samaritans when I lived in Scotland, they asked me how close I was and then actually called an ambulance to come get me to take me A&E with my permission whilst they talked to me.
The Samaritans phone number doesn't show up on your telephone bill, so your family won't know. This number is free to call from both landlines and mobiles, including pay-as-you-go mobiles. You do not need to have any credit or call allowance on your plan to call 116 123.
They also can if you discuss the option with them put you in touch with relevant services if you feel you are a risk to yourself.
I have no affiliation or anything with the Samaritans, just experience of how they responded to me.
I strongly think you need to go to your GP as soon as you can tomorrow ,and get an emergency appointment to see them and tell them what is going on.
You don't say what is causing to you to feel this way which means more specific advice is difficult. I wish you a peaceful night, and the courage to get the help you require to sort through the issues making you feel this way.
The advice Suzetig gave about taking time in baby steps, through five minutes at a time is a very valid and recommended approach to get you through until you can speak to someone.

 

[Suzetig]

@Gadgie How do you know that? Many people go into the helping professions because of their own experience of adversity and trauma. I know several therapists who have experienced trauma and at points have had a PTSD diagnosis, have struggled with self harm and suicidal ideation - being a professional doesn't mean you've not got personal experience of the issues, just that you've overcome them to where you can help.

Many Samaritans volunteers have personal experience of suicide and suicidal ideation. I think people who have their own trauma experience have a unique perspective, some of them also happen to be professionals.

 

[Friday]

Aye! but like I've said before, the only people who can really understand, are fellow sufferers, people who have been there

Someone who is actively suicidal needs real-life support, far beyond what this forum is capable of providing. Moreover? They deserve that kind of support.

 

[joeylittle]

I just got the impression they just tried to distract me. That's not going to make my problems and intent go away.

You are right - distraction is a temporary measure. But, it's often the strongest tool to shift the ideation into the background enough to then initiate some more effective coping techniques.

I understand how frustrating it is.

Really addressing the intent is a more prolonged process. But medication can help take the bottom off the very bottom of the despair.

Are you experiencing overwhelming floods of emotion, or is it more like numbness/distancing?

 

[anonymous]

What's causing me to feel suicidal -

Left my abusive ex

Ex is now trying to get me done for social security fraud

They may stop all my money so I'll essentially be homeless and have no money for food

Food banks in my area are very low on stock

I already have anxiety, depression and chronic and enduring eating disorder

I am in such poor health that I can't work

Essentially, this is it, leaving my ex has completely ruined my life

 

[anonymous]

They may even jail me

I am terrified

My ex made me tell social security I was single, living alone, had no savings (I had around £2000) - all untrue but I was scared of my ex, I had already been assaulted and for 10 years have lived in fear of him

He controlled all my finances so they want to see my bank statements and there are loads of bizarre transactions, money in, out, in, out..

I have been a mess since leaving approx 3 months and tried to live elsewhere, registered with a different doctor, done all sorts of weird things because I wasn't able to think clearly, convinced that no matter where I go, he'll find me and kill me

This interview I've to go to next week, with compliance people at the dwp, I'm terrified

I can't cope with more stress

I've been "practicing" my exit from life

Every day I have pains in my chest and feel totally helpless

I feel so terrified every day

It's unbearable

 

[digger]

I've been "practicing" my exit from life

Can you expand on this a bit? Do you mean practicing it in your head or something else?

I think today, before the weekend, you need to go to your GP. Tell them it's urgent and that you need to be seen today. Your GP should be able to get you some support over the weekend with your community mental health team. If not then go to A+E.

Emailing or texting the Samaritans can be useful if you don't require an immediate response, but not so much if you feel you're needing a quicker response.