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Sufferer Understanding Childhood Losses in the Context of Deaf Parents and Siblings

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I am looking for information regarding a possible list for childhood losses =what?
I grew up the oldest hearing child with Deaf parents and siblings. I was given a lot of responsibilities that I was not prepared for. I was abused by my Father physically and emotionally. I was abused emotionally by other family members. I was diagnosed with Cptsd. I am going through therapy and receive medication from my psychiatrist. I am also doing work on my own in reading books. But I am at a loss as to what childhood losses I have experienced since I don't know what I missed?! Can someone help explain this?
 
I am looking for information regarding a possible list for childhood losses =what?
I grew up the oldest hearing child with Deaf parents and siblings. I was given a lot of responsibilities that I was not prepared for. I was abused by my Father physically and emotionally. I was abused emotionally by other family members. I was diagnosed with Cptsd. I am going through therapy and receive medication from my psychiatrist. I am also doing work on my own in reading books. But I am at a loss as to what childhood losses I have experienced since I don't know what I missed?! Can someone help explain this?
I'm so sorry to hear about the difficult experiences you had growing up and the challenges you continue to face. It's encouraging to hear that you're actively seeking therapy and engaging in self-help through reading books.

When we talk about childhood losses in the context of trauma, we're referring to the experiences, opportunities, and normal development that might have been hindered or disrupted due to the traumatic events you went through. These losses can include things like the loss of a safe and nurturing childhood, the loss of trust in caregivers, the loss of a sense of belonging or connection with others, the loss of a sense of self-worth, and the loss of basic emotional support and validation.

Because of the abuse and responsibilities you faced at a young age, it's likely that you missed out on age-appropriate experiences, such as the opportunity to explore and develop your own interests, the freedom to make mistakes and learn from them, or a secure and stable environment that fosters emotional well-being.

It's important to remember that everyone's experiences and losses are unique, and it can be helpful to work with a therapist to explore and process the specific losses you may have experienced. They can assist you in uncovering and understanding these losses, as well as help you develop coping strategies and healing techniques.

If you're looking for further support and connection with others who may have similar experiences, I encourage you to consider joining the peer-to-peer community at myptsd.com. There, you'll find various forums catering to different topics related to PTSD and CPTSD, where you can share your experiences and connect with others who may have experienced similar childhood losses. Remember, you don't have to face this journey alone.

Please continue to prioritize your mental health and well-being, and don't hesitate to reach out to professionals for support when needed.
 
Hello,
Thank you so much for explaining childhood losses. For me not knowing what I was missing was hard for me to explain. I so do appreciate your help and your quick response. I will definitely keep this and also check out the forums.
 
Welcome, I'm glad you're here!

I've been working on my CPTSD for over a decade now, around 15 years now, maybe, and I'm still discovering things I missed out on! I don't have any advice, but I hope it helps to know you aren't alone.
 
hello coda. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

i share your confusion on those ambiguous losses of ? ? ? whatchamacallit ? ? ? i was caring for 6 younger siblings in travelling sex show from an obscenely early age. by some measures, i never had a childhood. what did i miss? what could have, should have or would have been? my life often feels like a piece of trampled swiss cheese with holes and scars all over the place.

excuse me a minute while i go empty my pity pot. . . sigh. . .

i may not ever know what i missed, but i shoot for finding consolation in the unique perspectives my healing journey has given me. some days that is easier than others.

steadying support while you find what works for you.
welcome aboard.
 
Hi Arfie,
It is confusing as to what I missed. Growing up in my house was for me, with all the responsibilities I had, is what I thought everyone else did too. It's not till I became a teenager that what was happening was not normal.
I am grateful to know I am not alone. Take care.
Coda66

Welcome, I'm glad you're here!

I've been working on my CPTSD for over a decade now, around 15 years now, maybe, and I'm still discovering things I missed out on! I don't have any advice, but I hope it helps to know you aren't alone.
Hi littleoc,
Thanks for your support. It's just recently that I have been diagnosed with Cptsd. I am trying to figure out where I am in this journey. So much to learn but I am committed to work on my issues to make my life better. It's comforting to know I am not alone. Wishing you well. Let's stay in touch. Coda66
 
It is confusing as to what I missed.
amen, my sister-in-healing, amen.
i'm 69 now and most often find my way around that confusion by letting the mystery be. fact is, i don't get to change the past and, by whatever name and/or judgement, i is what i is and i isn't what i isn't.

the good news is that i have found significant serenity in my studies of how to let the mystery be. some days i think life is just one big mystery novel. i can't wait to turn the next page.
 
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