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Relationship Using Up What Little Patience He Has On Other People!

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Sighs

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My vet has very little capacity for dealing with people at the moment. But because he "doesn't want to seem rude" he uses it up dealing with neighbours and friends and then dumps on me! Today he yelled at me about how "you civvys are all shit" and how he feels marginalised by society and how I have given him no option but to leave and he won't be there when I get home. Five minutes later he has calmed down and says he loves me.

Sick of being on the f*cking bottom of his priorities pile.
 
I couldn't take it.
But my PTSD was caused in some part by parental verbal abuse ( the mildest part of the abuse buffet I got, but...).
So that's probably just me, I guess.
 
Yup.
It's posts like yours that actually make me feel lucky I simply get shut out weeks and months at a time ('cause the ole buddy has always refused to get into fights with me even when I begged him to) until he apparently smells that I've decided to "F**K THAT" and comes a-runnin' on the next best decent day he has to feed me (and himself...and his kid, his friends, his family, his therapist...) some line about how "forever" just wouldn't be long enough, which anyone but me just seems to gobble right up.

Frankly? I don't know how you do it every d*mn day. Poor impulse-control in times of high stress is one thing. In a very twisted way, it might even be the sort of compliment no one really needs to get when you're the one they feel safe enough to unload with - but C'MON! :banghead::banghead::banghead:

Guess if you're shit for being a civvy anyway, you probably should do the world a favor and go spend quality time with others of your species so the high and mighty can stew in his rage on his own...only that that usually doesn't fly either now, does it?

I swear I'd happily give various extremities and several non-vital organs to the one who finds the one-size-fits-all reaction in times like these, but I fear my body won't be taken apart any time soon (or ever). :shifty:

You've got the patience of a saint, girl, and the dude'd better realize that like...yesterday.
Time to throw some hatchets at trees, methinks.
 
Sick of being on the f*cking bottom of his priorities pile.

I actually said this out loud to hubby on Monday!

Initially he was quite defensive about it, but last night the dinner was cooking when I walked in from work and we spent a couple of really nice hours together.

Even if tonight is back to 'normal' it's nice to know he listened and took it on board. @Sighs, I'm not convinced your guy would be quite so accommodating...
 
We should get bonus points every time we hold in a "f*ck off dude"... Then cash them in for cookies or something. It is a skill!

Sorry you had to hear it again @Sighs
 
Hmm...
Just a random thought...every time he's an asshole to you? Maybe he could put a set amount of dollars in a jar. Enough to sting him a good bit.
So he has a certain financial incentive to bite his tongue or take it somewhere else if he really can't bite it.
Once there's enough in the jar, you get to treat yourself to something nice with it? By yourself, of course.
You'd have to work the agreement up when he's calm.
Just a thought, take if usable?

Dang, I wish I had made that agreement with my ex-wife! Every time she screamed around me, a $5 in the jar... Maybe she could have restrained herself?
Either that or I would have had more dinners out!
 
Oh man @Stickler that is a wonderful idea... I'd save it up and go to the Bahamas!

Sorry he's at it again @Sighs. This past week or so has been made of bullshit :banghead:. We must have missed the memo.
 
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