Vulnerable To Criticism

[Deleted member 33052]

@Ragdoll Circus I wasn't able to read through all of the comments - I'm finding it difficult to focus, sorry! I'm sure this has been said before, but just in case everyone else thought it was too obvious to bother with, you didn't do anything to your therapist. You didn't make him feel anything. He made himself feel a certain way, and even if he chose to blame you, it's all on him. His reaction had absolutely nothing to do with you.

 

[Sideways]

@Mal Content - thank you:) I think maybe I'm not completely responsible for the fallout, but either way, he's definitely responsible for his own feeling. And maybe I did shove him around a bit, but I'm pretty sure the push and shove was going both ways.

 

[Deleted member 33052]

@Ragdoll Circus One of the few lessons that have stuck with me is that it takes two to make a bad relationship. However, when one of them is a therapist, the weight of responsibility is on him. Please, be gentle on yourself. :hug:

 

[Broken Dahlia]

My T walked out of an appointment 2 weeks ago. I was in the middle of trying to explain to him...

@Ragdoll Circus I'm so sorry this happened; you really seemed to love your therapist. I hope you can take whatever is useful from your relationship and make progress, overcoming even more adversity. I was so hurt when my last therapist referred me out due to funding that I acted out to hurt her back. She never even knew, I just set myself back. Not saying you would do this, I just know how hard it is to lose that connection. Take care, Ragdoll.

 

[Nari]

My T walked out of an appointment 2 weeks ago. I was in the middle of trying to explain to him...

No one should treat you like this, especially your therapist. It is obvious to me that he has some problems. I think you should get a better therapist, one who likes you, supports you and helps you figure out the obstacles in your path and helps you overcome them. Good luck

 

[Sweet_E]

My T walked out of an appointment 2 weeks ago. I was in the middle of trying to explain to him...

It sounds like you are benefiting from both therapists and don't want to mess things up with the first one. It's a shame the first T has taken things so personally. I saw an EMDR practitioner who seemed almost jealous of my main therapist and didn't want me to see her. Every other EMDR person I went to did not want to take that support away. I don't think PTSD undermines your credibility at all. If anything, the borderline traits might, right or not. However you seem to be approaching this very diplomatically and sincerely. I would think about whether it's a good idea to print out the email communications just in case and ask your trauma T for help in navigating the situation. You can frame it in a way that you want to preserve the professional relationship with T#1 and need help resolving the conflict. Another approach would be to only go to T#1 with topics that seem "safe" and won't cause a conflict for a while so things have a chance to cool off. you might want to consider replacing the T#1 in the long term, although I know that can be very painful. It's so hard to see new therapists especially if our PTSD was caused by someone in a position of trust.