Walked Out Of Work Today!

[Notsowild]

My manager is trying every trick in the book to get me to quit or get fired. Today she said I had harassed someone at work and HR would be investigating it. This girl of course is one of her favourites. I was so upset I told her I was leaving and walked out.

There really is no sense trying to fight this anymore. She wants me gone and she'll keep at me till I am. I can't do this anymore. My stress is through the roof plus strong suicidal thoughts. I don't know how to live in this world. This is too much.

 

[colak]

I just want to send my support and understanding. I've been in similar situations and know stories of many others who have too. Toxic workplaces are almost always a lose-lose situation, and its astonishing how common they are and "the system" really doesn't allow most people any way out except to quit and try to land in a place with healthier culture. Best of luck to you, I know right now the situation is terrifying, and I hope that somehow it all leads to a better place for you.

 

[Notsowild]

Thanks @colak... I just don't understand, these girls were and verbally abused by her too. Now the boss is playing this sickly sweet role and their all falling for it. It is her that is the bully and harasser. I want to tell them now what PTSD is and what her abuse did to me.

 

[Neverthesame]

I have that boss too. Wish I give you an answer, I could use it myself. All I can tell you is I'm sorry your going through this. It is hard to cope with the fact that the schoolyard bullies never go away, they just get older.

Just know your not alone. Sending good vibes your way.

 

[Notsowild]

Thank you @Neverthesame... Very sweet of you. Do bullies ever get theirs in the end?

 

[Neverthesame]

I sure hope so. I suppose in a way they already do. Alot of them act the way they do because of mental issues they don't deal with. At the end of the day, they will go through their lives miserable jerks. Almost pitiable, almost. At least that's my theory.

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

Sometimes it's better to just walk away from a...holes, Notsowild. I appreciate your earlier courage but I think you are doing the right thing.
This is how you live in this world. You're doing it right. :hug:

 

[Frogs88]

I wish I had the insight and bravery to walk out of a situation when I know that it's damaging me. Good on you. And best of luck in finding somewhere with a a healthier atmosphere.

 

[Tanishq]

@Notsowild I wish you good luck in finding healthy workplace. You deserve the healthy atmosphere.

 

[VioletButterfly]

I agree with what all of the above have written. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I have walked out of 3 positions in the past 5 years. It's not great for the resume, but if the workplace is that unmanageable, then the only answer is to leave. I have spent a lot of time turning this paradigm back on myself, thinking there was something wrong with me. This is not the truth though. I was working my fanny off for sick people, in sick organizations. In my experience, the workplace will not get better and you cannot change it or the people; you can only change yourself and your environment, or the way you look at it. For me, I now trust my instincts and take care of myself.

At my last job part of my role was that of HR Director and the toxicity of the environment was beyond my scope or ability to fix. It's up to the ultimate "leader" of an organization often times and I've found that many folks in this role don't have a clue as to what makes for a good leader, much less one who is informed about laws regulating HR matters. I hope you find a job with a healthy organization where your work and worth are appreciated and repsected. Know that you are not alone. I'm on the hunt as well. Good luck and take care. :)

 

[Anrish]

I'm so sorry to read that you've got such a hard time at work. I'm really with you in this because I often experienced similar situations. I wish for you to find a better and healthier work place - stay strong, we're all with you. :hug:

 

[Notsowild]

Thanks everyone for all your kind words and support. I should have clarified I did not quit. The accusation and the stressful manager was too much so i walked out. I also took a sick day today.

Also there is no way in hell I will give her the satisfaction of me quitting. The Human Rights case is on April 16, I'm sure she'll try anything to discredit me for the hearing.

To me this is intimidation and any kind of retaliation is against HR code. I will be talking to them on Monday. I'm very anxious about going back to work though and this investigation. But I know alot more now about my rights. Wish me luck!