Called my therapist a 'stupid motherf*cker' today...would you?

[Stephernovas]

I appreciate everyone’s feedback. The reason I have developed a beef with that assistant manager is bc she has failed to actually directly communicate with me about any issues. The single time she did, I kindly told her I was okay and didn’t need her help. If she meant something else then she needed to be clear in her communication and not passively aggressively scoff at me.

I truly respect my therapist, but especially just after a session of me telling her worker’s comp was overwhelming me with a whole list of issues, she then compounded the issues her office had her share with me. #notcool

 

[Supervixn]

Um... Sorry this won't be what you want to hear, but you were out of line consistently.

Those people, the staff, owe you nothing short of showing you to your appointment and being polite. Winter time, early appointments, hall ways whatever it be... You are owed nothing more than anyone else.

I work somewhere where there is a woman who has bipolar and boundary issues, she shows up everyday with no business for being there. I work at a church and I have no business turning this woman away nor would I ever do that, but she displays the same emotionally needy entitlement I'm hearing from you. It interferes with my mood being around it and it is a distraction from my work. However, I am never impolite unwelcoming or rude. I can tell you if she ever called me a MF or whatever, Id have a long discussion with my boss where I'd insist on finding a way to not interact with her. It sounds like they approached your therapist and it isn't to bully you. You're crossing lines with them, they have every right to secure their work environment and to have emotions of their own about how your behavior affects their office.

Nobody needs to read through a letter for you, invite you to use their computer or anything like that .The employee who assisted you deserves a big compliment for going beyond her job expectation to be helpful. You showing up there without an appt would bother me too. I would question your presense and probably feel annoyed... Sorry. They have expressed issue with it, so you should respect it and find somewhere else to go daily.

Your therapist sounds more than tolerant. You should step back from this situation, analyze where you have gone wrong and quit blaming people for being just as human as you. You got annoyed by their annoyance. You called them out of their name, they'd be fired if they did anything close to that...

They locked the door. Hello. They asked you in so many words to respect boundaries that you are trampling over. No one is perfect and I'm sharing my opinion to give you a more balanced perspective in hopes you aren't too prideful to adjust your views here. You didn't act your best. Your entitlement is off-putting in this situation

 

[Stephernovas]

Um... Sorry this won't be what you want to hear, but you were out of line consistently.

Those peopl...

Interesting reply. As I’ve stated throughout I appreciate all feedback. In my experience through working in agencies in town is that people are allowed to ask all the questions they want. If something is not okay, then it’s the responsibility of the person being asked to accept or decline. Some may see it as a sense of entitlement, but I never demanded anything or insunuated they HAD to help me. I asked. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking. Are we not consistently told (in therapy and everywhere else) ask for help.

 

[Supervixn]

Yeah i didnt reply to agree with you. I do not agree with you. You can say that "they needed to communicate to you" all you want but people are people, we don't always have the clarity to perfectly approach a touchy situation. At work it can be even harder. It's a touchy, difficult situation as an employed person to attempt to approach a patron who is making people uncomfortable. I'd be annoyed too. Im giving you honesty.

Step back off the ego defense a bit... its ok. You were wrong. I think deep down know you were wrong. It's ok to mess up. Apologise and adjust your behavior there would be my advice. It is never okay to call someone a MF because they went to their boss for help or scoffed or whatever. You dont want to acknowledge their discomfort with you because some how you feel they owe you tolerance. They gave you that... in spades. Enough gets to be enough after a while. Good luck to you. We are all learning our way through this

 

[Stephernovas]

Yeah i didnt reply to agree with you. I do not agree with you. You can say that "they needed to comm...

It’s one thing to offer your opinion, but please avoid telling me how I should or am feeling. Thank you.

 

[Supervixn]

Needs adjustment in this situation. I speak to you as a friend who has and understands PTSD. Opening your perspective a bit will help you avoid this in the future is all. You may feel anyway you want to, I just caution you to balance your inner narrative on this.

 

[Sideways]

but I never demanded anything or insunuated they HAD to help me.

Is this really accurate? Genuine question.

By your own account, you had a bit of a meltdown at the desk over the workcover issues (which I get - sudden termination of payments would send me over the edge), and have acknowledged that your workcover issues have pushed your suicidal ideation in the past.

Was it really an option for them to turn you out onto the street in that state? Seems to me that if they’d done that - enforced their policies and sent you packing - this thread would be about how unreasonable that would have been...

 

[Stephernovas]

Is this really accurate? Genuine question.

By your own account, you had a bit of a meltdown at the desk over the workcover issues (which I get - sudden termination of payments would send me over the edge), and have acknowledged that your workcover issues have pushed your suicidal ideation in the past.

Was it really an option for them to turn you out onto the street in that state? Seems to me that if they’d done that - enforced their policies and sent you packing - this thread would be about how unreasonable that would have been...

Beacause I started tearing up over it? No. I actually just left an office that wasn’t able to help me, and it was not a big deal. It’s not like I’m running around to each office telling them I’m going to kill myself because no one is helping me or whatever lol.

Again, you can ask, but it doesn’t mean everyone is equip to help. That’s okay. If someone feels bad because they can’t help, that’s not on me those are their own emotions.

I’m noticing more assumptions and judgements in responses than actual understanding or supportive concern, therefore I’m going to stop replying to this post. There are enough varied responses for me to consider in how I’d like to move forward. Good day.

 

[Supervixn]

Well I'm happy you shared. I'm happy you got a range of responses and I hope things go better for you soon. Life is hard on us all. Before you know it, this thing will blow over... It may even be something you and your therapist look back on and admire how far you've come. Much love and well wishes, my friend. Keep your head up, there are people who care about you.

 

[EveHarrington]

Honestly this thread seems to be really long and drawn out for what should be a simple issue. No you should not be calling people mother f*ckers, but you were triggered, so it’s understandable. The office was wrong in not enforcing boundaries and since they probably thought you were pushing boundaries the staff talked to your therapist. Really, it’s simple. Apologize to the staff the next time you are in there for an appointment. Apologize to your therapist the next time you have a session. Don’t go there unless you actually have an appointment. Don’t ask these people for paperwork help as it’s outside of the scope of their job description, unless you are directly asking your therapist for paperwork that must be completed by a therapist. Dragging things out in this thread is just making you run in circles. That’s my opinion. You can take it or leave it.