Poll Was Anybody Convicted For Crimes Against You?

[lisamarie]

I chose "no it was never reported". In terms of the sexual abuse, it was never reported. The abuse from my ex....I tried to seek help from the police but they laughed in my face basically, it was horrible. :grumpy:

 

[lisamarie]

Unfortunately, he was even more angry when he got out of jail.

That's so scary. That's why I never got a restraining order against my ex or officially pressed charges against him. In the end it would have made him more angry and I still wouldn't have been protected. Hope this turned out okay.

 

[matthios]

I was violently attacked and defended myself. I called 911. Police and ambulance arrived. My attacker was taken away by the ambulance as the alleged victim and I was taken and tortured by police. I'm facing charges. So, uh, I can't click any of those options for my situation despite technically reporting it and it not leading to conviction.

 

[Shellbell]

Yes, one of my abusers went to prison. But didn't get guilty for every crime he was arrested for. The worst crime against me he got off on a 'technicality'. The police said he would have got guilty on all crimes if they has been allowed. He was sentenced to prison for 15 months, instead of 5 years as a result. And he was out in 9 months for 'good behaviour'.

The legal system really let me down. The Judge said what he did to me was horrendous. The Police told me the legal system is more geared towards the offender and not the victim and apologised to me for it. It wasn't justice, but at least it was something.

 

[Innordinate]

I just voted based on one of my abusers...since there was more than one..and the other didn't fit into any of those answers.

 

[nie]

I never reported my rape. I didn't think anyone would believe me. I told my therapist years later, but never went to any authorities.

 

[goingonhope]

What I reported Nope, Nope, Nope. :cry:

And, what I didn't report Nope, Nope, Nope. :dead:

No convictions, and absolutely no accountability. :sick:

 

[Lucycat]

Yes, even though it was over 30 years later. Convicted. Found guilty. Sentenced to 3 years 6 months. Served half that.

 

[Ice_Fire]

Nope, never reported it. I wouldn't report my parents because it is highly unlikely they'd be convicted and I dread to think what they would do once it had all been officially swept under the carpet.

I probably could report the other abuser still (it's been what, 5 years since the last time?) and sickeningly there probably is evidence...but I'm too scared and he'd probably get away with it. :cry:

 

[allisonp]

I chose to file a report but not press charges. I am very thankful that I lived in a jurisdiction in which this was an option.

The detective with whom I met was very kind and understanding and was also very honest about where he saw an investigation / possible trial going. It was a "he-said-she-said" ordeal - because I waited over a month to even file a report (it took me that long for me to even admit to myself that what I experienced was indeed rape), there was no evidence.

My mom was dying with cancer at the time, and so I didn't want to put my family through that added stress, especially as most likely nothing would have come out of it. I did however agree to cooperate if any other woman came forward against the same individual, and I also filed a report with my university - the person was a student at the same campus. It was put (invisibly to the student) on their record.

Sometimes I wonder if I did the right thing or not, but I also know I couldn't have gone through an investigation/trial emotionally myself at the time, and I wouldn't ever have wanted my dad or my mom to go through that either.

My mom died roughly six months after I was raped. I did, however, tell my parents about it, which was inexpressibly difficult. I felt guilty at bringing that kind of grief into their lives, especially as my mom was sick and we knew she was dying, but I also wanted and needed to be honest with them and not hide anymore.

 

[Estacia]

20 plus years ago, it was common not to arrest parents/spouses in my case it was both.

 

[Tinyflame]

Only twice filed police reports but didn't press charges. One that was for sexual assault/ stalking/ uttering threats went to prison over attempted murder eventually but is subsequently out and has resumed his business in the city where I live. Most things I would never consider reporting, because of minimizing it myself, and consequences, feared and realistic, of reporting it.