Childhood Was This Sexual Abuse?

[shrinkingviolet]

It's definitely a good idea to speak with your psychiatrist. Whether it's ptsd or not, you have been traumatised by this person's actions, none of which is your fault. There is hope for healing and dealing with your anger and fears. You do belong and are most welcomed here. It takes great courage to speak up. Please know you are not alone.

 

[RisingPhoenix]

I am sorry that you were taken advantage of and exploited at such a young age. I feel deeply for your suffering you're intutition is right, what you went through was sexual abuse. However, You are extremely courageous and insightful. It took me years to realize that i was being sexually abused as a teen. you clearly have a strong moral compass and enough knowledge to see that you are affected by what happened to you. I just hope that you are able to see the beauty in life and in the joy of perseverance. If your are experiencing depression and find yourself withdrawing from relationships you should really let your therapist know. There is light after ever tunnel and you will get the support you need. Please keep your head up!

 

[Chava]

I'd consider that to be sexual abuse. It's not the form we hear about all the time because we've only had the internet for...how long? I didn't even have e-mail when I started my job! But these f*ckheads are out there grooming young people. Standard forms of sexual abuse don't require contact (though that is what we commonly refer to as abuse), but it includes forcing a kid to watch, getting off on watching a kid, etc. And if he was threatening suicide to a young kid, that's pretty controlling and manipulative and hard for a kid to understand or know how to respond to. Those are some major threats. At the very least it is horrible exploitation but I don't think it's too gray to be considered sexual abuse with the grooming, the acts involved, and the threats used...sounds like coercion into his personal child porn. Yes, sexual abuse.

I can understand taking your time. Probably talk to your therapist or psychiatrist first. As for PTSD, they'd be the ones to diagnose. But you deserve support with this no matter what the "diagnosis." It's just hard stuff and I'm sorry for what you've been through.

 

[KwanYingirl]

I would be very careful and NOT speak to a school counselor. There is no confidentiality in school. The counselor would have to put his or hers progress notes and any teacher could get your file and read it. This happened to my son and it had terrible consequences for him. Please get professional help from people that will keep your case confidential.

 

[darrenS]

I don't really have a certain question to ask besides was this actual sexual abuse because it was over video chat and not in person and I feel like I'm alone and it's not considered real abuse

It is clearly abuse, when an older person manipulates a tween and then uses you to fill his sick desires, it cannot be termed anything else.

I would seek out a womens advocacy service for sexual abuse and address it there, the problem with addressing it with a psychiatrist , is sure he/she may put a label to it , and it will probably validate a lot of things for you , but at the same time it could possibly send you in a spin.

I suggest a sexual abuse/assault service because you will be in safe company and receive a lot more support than just an appt. Build your support network first with the necessary resources and then take it to your psychiatrist.

You have taken a very gutsy move in sharing it here and i truly hope you get the support and help you need , your young and showing such courage and insight at 17 is commendable , i truly wish you the best

 

[RussH]

It is sexual abuse and very much illegal. He needs to be reported to the police so he can face criminal charges and put in prison where he belongs.