General Weekends.... What Do You Do??

[Sunshine71]

Last weekend was a nightmare and I would really welcome some ideas as I am lost....!!

We seem to spend our time cleaning / spring cleaning.... (we did this Saturday - and that was fine it needed to be done).

Sunday was horrendous - we are going through a tough time anyway (pls see my other post). However it was the worst and I have never felt so low.... my eyes were burning I cried so much.

How do you cope with a moody/ black cloud? Its so cold to go out and I don't have a lot of £'s right now.... and sometimes I may want to stay in but I just end up cleaning!!!

Any ideas or how to break this pattern - or how to cope when you are all in the house without the distraction of work (I work from home too!) Would be welcome.

Sadly even the house feels different as he walks out of the door.

Thanks guys - Sunshine x

 

[dulcia]

A good book is always a good escape for me. Find a space in the house that he doesn't frequent and curl up in there with a book. Close the door if you need the extra space. Also? My dog. She is the best escape for me -- cuddling with her, taking her to the park, going on a walk, you name it.

 

[Friday]

I generally clean Thursday Nights, with Pizza & Beer & Music (because cleaning sucks, and anything that sucks can be made fun, or at least more fun, with PBM). Just as a general life rule. That way weekends are free of mundane chores. I do throw sheets/towels in the wash on Sunday rather than Thursday, so the weekends adventures are bleached/washed away & each week starts out sleeping in yummy sheets. But that takes a grand total of about 5 minutes to start the loads, and 5 minutes to make up the beds. Other laundry & dry cleaning is done as needed through the week itself.

I'm the PTSD'er in this equation, though. Meaning I get rather routine oriented.

Another thing I've done in a few relationships, routine-wise is split the weekend. His day. My day. Our day. Or family day. (3 day weekends are almost always my norm). On "your" day? For 24 hours you do whatever you please, whenever you please. Sleep until 3pm. Be up at dawn & come home the next day at dawn. No questions asked. No calls. No checking in. No asking if such & such day would be good for a boys/girls night (unless it's on any of the other 6 days of the week ;)). It's your day. 24 hours. Spend it at your leisure. So instead of staring at this big block of time, where in theory part of it "should" be spent doing XYZ, but our ideas of what XYZ were -and when they should happen- conflicting? Shazaam. Did it work perfectly? Hell no. But it worked -for me- a helluva lot better than when I was confronted with...ummmmm....ahhhhh...shit. What "should" I be doing, here? >.< Aaaargh. Too many choices. Going back to bed to growl into the mattress.