Weekly Goals

[DMerish]

I have to set a new goal.

What about choosing something around self-acceptance, or trying on some (an?) affirmation?

 

[DMerish]

This particular format of choosing a goal and answering the five questions, i.e. why, how, what will I feel, etc. was presented to me during group therapy many years ago. It was explained, that answering the questions brings to light thoughts and emotions that are unconscious, and hold one back from moving forward. The questions are just as important, maybe more important, that what goal was chosen. Because, unless someone is completely thrown off from trying to accomplish their goal because of injury or another cause that can't be anticipated, through the week the answers given to how I will feel are somewhat in the forefront of the mind. And at the end of the week one can be able to see patterns. Or if we're honest with each other in our posts about how things are going, others will see patterns and gently bring them to our attention. Hope that made sense.

Drew

 

[DharmaGirl]

Yes, it does. I'm liking this a lot. I'm going to bed but tomorrow I'll set my goal. Or rather later today.

 

[Flyaway]

How is everyone going? I made my self a progress chart in reply above

 

[ashdawn8287]

One issue I ran into with goal setting was where to begin.

Okay so I wanted to volunteer and help, study, college, get involved with my own community. So how was I going to go about doing it? I was so focused on rushing and just getting there I wasn't focused on the small little goals that led to accomplishing my big goals.

For example the symptoms of ptsd prevented me from accomplishing those things so I tackled one issue at a time those were my goals. Ranging from trust, public speaking, negative emotions. I worked those all out separately. I guess my point is start small like drew with cleaning your desk. Once you get the small stuff down and dissect your issues everything becomes more manageable.

When summer began my goals were to stay on a routine and practice that. That helped tremendously.

Just a little advice take it or leave :)

I'm cheering you all on!!!

 

[DMerish]

Flyaway: A progress chart, eh? That's interesting. Please say more about that as the week progresses.

Ash: I agree, it's good to start small. When I do that and I begin to accomplish things, it gives me a boost of confidence to work on other things. Everyone is at their own "starting place" - I'm at the place of getting my routine and my home back in order at the moment. You, m'dear, seem to be like the energizer bunny! Go Ashdawn, go, go! Let nothing stop you!

I didn't do anything yesterday except look at and think about by desk (I was physically exhausted). But this morning I got up 15 minutes earlier and took care of a couple of things on it. I may have to keep to working on it in 15 minute increments - the way it's been looking is overwhelming. But it's a teeny-tiny bit better now than it was when I first got up this morning. :)

 

[Flyaway]

Yahhh for you! Well done :tup: when I say progress chart I mean it in the most basic sense, I edited my goal response... Scroll up to see...

 

[DMerish]

:D He, he - Days of week / Check mark - how cool is that!?!

When I become a premium member (next paycheck) I'll be able to do that also. :hug:

 

[ashdawn8287]

I drink a lot of coffee haha. I try to keep busy it helps a lot with symptoms. I feel more in control than ever before. I am doing all these things I have wanted to do since I was a kid and I can do them now because I have managed to control my symptoms so I'm like yay!!!! I can do this stuff now!

I need to donate money to this forum. I haven't contributed anything yet mainly because I haven't been working and my fiancee was out of work for 3 weeks. So, once I get the fiances under control my fiancee and I will contribute.

 

[Britt.f7]

I'm horrible at setting goals and following through them. Funny, we just talked about something similar to this in therapy. I'll have to really think of the questions and figure out a reasonable goal. I'm more apt to set myself up for failure. Years of doing so has made it nearly impossible to do it any other way...but, I can do this. Great thread.

 

[ashdawn8287]

You can and will do it britt!!!

That is a goal right there. To set goals and figure out what you want to work on! :)

 

[DMerish]

Today is Thursday. I've been down a lot this week. Didn't work on my desk at all on Monday (my excuse=too exhausted). Tuesday and Wednesday I worked on it some (had to make myself). Woke up during the wee hours this morning, and gave it about half-hour of my attention. Found a $45 check from June! Hehe - I'm a bit more excited to work on the task now that I got a "reward".