General Well Hubby Has Really Stepped Up To The Mark Tonight.

[amethist]

I dont know the full story yet, so I will just tell you what I do know.

His mum went to the Dr's this morning because of ongoing problems with her legs, something connected to diabetes as far as I know. The Dr said he was not happy and sent her straight to the hospital, where she was seen and kept in.

When hubby found this out at around 5 pm tonight he was on his way to stay with his dad in a flash. His dad has not been well himself, and was 80 on new years day.

Money got, taxi phoned, tablets in his pocket and off he went.

I will see him when I see him, maybe later tonight, maybe tomorrow.

All I saw as he left, was the man he used to be before PTSD.

 

[therapybankrupt]

It is amazing that when there is a emergency we function very well. At least I know I amaze myself. Be ready for the collapse though. Usually this follows for me. I think its the flight or fight response that kicks in and wipes you out completely. Sending you hugs!

 

[Meadowsweet]

I hope it turns out good for hubby and family. As therapybankrupt says, when in emergency mode, it's ok, but the after effects are a struggle. I guess it's trying you to find the way out of emergency mode and deal with 'norma' again that is the sticking point.

You have lots of support here Amethist.

 

[Abstract]

I am sorry you are both dealing with this situation. It seems that your husband has come far in his healing. From your reaction I am guessing he wouldn't have been able to react like that more recently and I am very glad for you that you could glimpse the real him behind the trauma again. It's good to remember isn't it.

Like Therapybankrupt and Meadowsweet I tend to be marvellous in an emergency. Even as a small child I was the same. Its interesting what you both say about backlash. I don't even think I have put that together. It always seems like I deal with it way afterwards and totally disconnected from it. But in the immediate aftermath there is apparently "nothing". I just go onto the next event. I probably am knocked sideways and just don't connect the two. :confused: Something to consider and work out.

Lets hope he does not have backlash and rather goes from strength to strength!

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Hugs and prayers for you guys Amethist if that is ok. I am sad that this happened to you guys. I hope your husband manages just fine. I am with you in spirit. Hugs.

 

[therapybankrupt]

Not to diminish your husbands progress Amethist! I am hoping your husband can function forever in the present mode!:hug:

 

[ISupportHer]

Although I am sorry to hear of the health issues of his parents, it is good to hear that he responded the way you say he has. Will he be staying with his Dad for any lenghth of time?

ISH

 

[amethist]

Hubby came home last night, as his mum came home from hospital.

Not sure whether she was released, or pushed to come home herself, which sound more like it.

Still not sure what it is all about, as she could not remember what the Dr said. About right for her though.

Hubby is fine this morning. Car has been delivered and now he is going for a run in it to see his dad and see if he can find out what it was all about yesterday.

Wont take me with him, as he is worried I will start on his mum and not know when to stop. MMM he knows me too well. :roflmao:

 

[Sailorgal]

Glad everything went well last night with your hubby! Phew!

 

[anni]

I do think men are different, some other thing kicks in when it comes to riding to the rescue. Tend to be good at, hee- nice to have them there, too. Sorry, it just is sometimes. Could be just the natural progression,was just waiting for the op to make another large healing step. You saying it's more who you married, sounded lovely!

Hate to kinda be happy for you when your in-laws health is part of the story, but it's still a nice story.

 

[amethist]

Its all fallen apart today, big style.

He went to see his dad today as he said he was, to fine they were not in when he got there. What he did find, was their house keys on the floor by the door.

He let himself in and waited for them, getting more and more wound up as he waited.

They got back a while later, telling him they had left them for him. WTF, an open invitation for anyone to walk in or what.

He could not believe what they had done, and they could not see the issue when he told them. His dad looked ill and his mum whined and moaned about herself again.

This wound hubby up big style, so what did he do after he left because he cant cope with them like this, he hit the pub, and came home blasted.

He is now in bed sleeping it off, but tomorrow once he can talk sense, he will be told he has 2 choices. He either learns to deal with what ever issues they have, or he stays away and let the rest of the idiotic family deal with them.

So his dad being able to talk and act sensibly yesterday while his mum was not there was a one off.

 

[myvetswife]

Oh No! How stupid can people be leaving the door key there?! My hubby does not have contact with his mun (his dad died) for nearly 4 years now, 'cos she denies so much what happened. We broke off all contact. Maybe that would be the best for your husband.