I know Kathy.......we love them so much and do want to help. I don't think they really understand.
Funny, I never expected my parents or inlaws to help. Well......come to think of it, I have pretty low expectations of anyone even caring about me. Oooooh boy am I triggered right now..... F'ing A.....even my brother doesn't understand. He borrowed 5 grand from us to try to save his home saying he'd pay us back when he got his insurance money......he went and bought another house without paying us a dime. Then he has the gall to tell me that we have the money and should be helping everyone.....after all, we're the only stable ones in the family. F that! We've worked our freakin butts off, denied ourselves (like you with the shower), only to support everyone else because they spend their money like it grows on trees? I mean sure....I'm happy to help IF you act responsibly....
Oooh man......I think I need to take a break. Go down and feed the horses, clean stalls, work off some of this anger.