What Are You Feeling Today? Not Thinking, Rather Feeling! Can You Identify Yours?

[Changing4Best]

I am feeling heartbroken about not having a family today.

I am a widow and what is left of my childhood family live far from me, so I invited myself for Easter to some friends of a friend. I did it in a kind of way that left them all open to not noticing that I was begging for an invitation, but they took the bait and invited me, Thank God!

There were still some sad moments for me, remembering days gone by and people who now rest in peace, but it still was worth it all. I did not feel so all alone as I have on other holidays before I thought of doing this. I know how tough it is to sit home alone on days like these. And yes, I did shed some tears on the days when I didn't have a place to go, so I can sure relate.

You can say things like, "Holidays just are so lonely for me now that all my family has passed away". or "I hate holidays now that I spend them all alone without family or friends". And if you say it to enough people, someone with a heart and soul will realize they can make your holiday a better one, not a perfect one though, but just a better one.

What is one more place setting at a full table? What is so difficult about giving one's EZ Chair up to a guest on a holiday? NOTHING! These folks took it all into stride and invited me for future holidays too! They hugged me and were most gracious. And I felt loved.

Try it, you've nothing to lose! And everything to gain. Be brave, but always leave them an out.

Oh, and last Christmas, I asked my pastor if he knew of a family that might be willing to take me in for the holiday dinner. He said he and his wife and kids would! That is another option.

I hope these suggestions help.

 

[KP the nut]

I'm feeling a little sad and alone. My darling hubby has gone away on business and won't be home until Friday. 5 sleeps without him.

 

[Changing4Best]

Mad at myself for being so stubborn. And it only caused ME to suffer. I need to remember that for future reference!

 

[shadowchaser]

Just numb. Trying to find humor and smile in things I know I should but can't.

 

[99Phoenix99]

Lonely.

Relationships seem to be the only thing my friends seem to want to talk about lately. And the kicker is I have 3 different social circles that never cross each other and yet since Valentine's day that's all each circle seems to be talking about lately.

And long story short I have intimacy issues.

*sigh*

I can't tell if this is me feeling sorry for myself or what but... I do feel lonely.

I suppose I should be proud that I can even write that out and share. A few months ago I'm not sure if I would have been capable of sharing that.

 

[ms spock]

I am a widow and what is left of my childhood family live far from me, so I invited myself for Easter to some friends of a friend.

I had three places to go but none of them were appropriate - one there was going to be too much drinking, one was too stressful so I stayed home.

 

[ms spock]

I feel better.

 

[intothelight]

Emotionally stirred up and not sure what to do with them all. Still find it uncomfortable to hold what feel like opposite emotions at the same time, especially when some feel like they were shot into me from outer space. :(

 

[ms spock]

I am feeling pleased I pulled it together again.

 

[Lionheart]

Well I made it through the winter without getting sick and now that it is spring, I am down with the flu.....go figure. lol I am trying to nurse myself back to health and feel like crap, but coming here makes me feel better. I feel exhausted and weak physically, but loved and supported emotionally.

 

[LaurieJ]

That was weird. I haven't been triggered like that in ages. I am feeling so much better today. It is going to be 56 degrees here today and I plan on going for a walk in my favorite park. And spending alot of time outdoors today. It sure has been a long winter.

 

[Changing4Best]

Oh, I think you did the right thing then. I am happy to say that mine worked out, but you are right, I did not know what I would have gotten myself into until I got there. Thankfully there was no drinking, no arguing, nothing offensive.