Gather them together and just talk. Take your shots. Apologize and mean it. Don't raise your voice. Speak from the heart and put that beast in your pocket. Try to anyway. Explain to them you have a disorder from being in war and it will take time. It is a sickness. You don't mean to hurt anyone. Tell what you feel comfortable about what you saw and felt. This will help bond them to you. Let your feelings go. Don't be logical. Be human, because that is what you are. An imperfect person. If it means divorce and separation, you will always be there for them. But you will try your best to make them all happy. Just be YOU, not the Beast.
Let all the hurt and pain go for a while. If you can't then you need to see the doc about something to settle you down. Nothing wrong with that. Meds are ok, sensibly taken.
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