What did this really mean? :/ t says perhaps we’re working too hard on csa

[Rachelminim]

Yesterday in therapy my therapist said that he thinks that perhaps we’re working too hard on dealing with my csa. That maybe we could talk about other things too.

This threw me a little because I don’t understand, why would he say this? Does he just not want to hear about it anymore? Or does he not believe what I tell him?

I’m confused and little nervous about going back next week :(

 

[MyWillow]

The best way to know is ask your T.

However my opinion is that a good T will focus on stabilisation above all things. Mine stopped even mentioning my childhood because of the dissociation, flashbacks and amnesia that would trigger. So now we are focussing on current stressors. And sometimes we spend a large part of the session talking about my dogs and my work as a means of stabilising around more challenging subjects. It feels SO damned slow but I leave in better shape and can cope with everyday life better.

 

[EveHarrington]

Are your symptoms spiking?

Even if they’re not, it’s possible that you’re moving full steam ahead and he knows that pushing too hard results in a train wreck——something he wants to avoid for you.

 

[flowerapple]

Not sure if this is the case for you but it could be, but a while back for me my T said the same thing to me. She said that it was obviously a difficult topic for me, but since I had told her on several occasions that after we talk about it and I leave I don't feel like I'm there anymore like I'm just on autopilot, she suggested I take a break from it. She said we were to work on some more grounding techniques and just practicing them in session and talking about other things that are bothering me not pertaining to it, kind of like starting on the surface with the minute problems and slowly digging deeper. We are still currently doing this and every now and again I would bring up the root issue but we would just approach it more slowly and practice the techniques as we discussed it. It is a bit better for me this way I think. Im not sure if this is the case for you, but just ask your T and here what he has to say?

 

[Deleted member 541]

I think there has to be a balance. Too much work on your trauma at one time can cause too much shit, symptoms can lead to overload and then everything spirals out of control. I think he/she is trying to avoid this. It’s ok, to be light in therapy too....

 

[Rose White]

I feel frustrated with this too, but stabilization is really important. I want so badly to deal with the big deal things and grieve and stuff, but I’m not ready. I keep slipping into depressions and the dissociations are still happening so we will probably be skimming for a while.