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[xxarmywifexx]

Update on my worst day ever.

Thank you all for all your support. Things have gotten better between us these last couple days. But I got sick a couple days ago. I was cold but running a fever and couldn't keep anything down and had a bad IBS attack...I think its due to all the stress. I think I'm making myself sick with worry. I tend to bottle things up to the point of sickness and its not good. It was bad I couldn't get myself out of bed and missed 2 days of work because of it. I'm going to go see a doctor and see if everything is okay. My tummy still hurts and all I've been eating is soup.

To be honest, I think I'm still feeling like he is going to leave me. I've had tons of abandonment in my life that was beyond my control. The more I think of it I can't decide if this is within my control...I'm just so confused :wall:. I know I can't make anyone stay...or can I? Uggg!!!!

Upside to the last melt-down (as if that were possible) ....he has been sleeping more. He asked me about our future and I mapped out what I thought we could accomplish "together" and I had him do the same. Made a few more V.A appointments, and our focus is to get referrals for a civilian network. It will be a long hall, but I'm willing if he is willing.

Thank you all again for the support I dont know what I would do without you all. :Hug_emoticon:

 

[Ace Ventura]

Glad to hear update...

Dear Army Wife,
I'm glad that the last few days have been a little better (in some ways). I was concerned that with all the stress, your IBS would flare up again (and sounds like a bug on top of that, too!). It seems promising that you and your husband were able to map out some things for the future. I'm guessing that you're pretty worn out now, considering all that has happened the last few days. If you ever feel like sharing how things are going with the referrals and plans you and your husband have made, I'm always glad to hear how things are going. We're in Indiana too, so I might be familiar with some of the organizations and locations you're talking about.
I struggle with that issue of how much "control" I have over whether my husband ultimately stays or goes. It's not that I want to control him; I want him to do what is best for him. Still, I want him to make the decision, not his PTSD. I know that's not an answer...just another case of "You're not alone.".
Anyway, I was glad to see your post; as always, please take care as you can.

:Hug_emoticon: Ace