What Do You Call Normal What Does Normal Mean To You

[Go Hungry]

What is normal to me would pretty certainly be abnormal to a lot of the mainstream American culture. But whether you are 'normal' or not depends a great deal on your peer group, the people that you choose to hang around and identify with. Among my friends I'm not abnormal at all. Instead of being mainstream, we are "interesting", which is definitely a good thing in my opinion.

But if by normal you mean 'healthy', then I have a long way to go. (Though I made great strides this weekend.) In terms of healthy, I think my goals are to be comfortable about people, nice and socially confident, unafraid to go new places and try new things. But from what I've seen there are a huge amount of people out there in the world who don't have PTSD, but are still quite anxious about these things. I guess I can't know for sure, as I see them all through the lens of myself.

But I just found out that my sister-in-law, who is as 'normal' as white bread, has a terrible anxiety condition. It's all in how you look at it, I suppose.

 

[Julie50]

I agree ^^...with my husband, I can now differentiate his "A" =normal self/personality with quirks and weaknesses and talents etc and his "B" = dissociated personality which none of us like to be around (angry, contemptuous, accusatory and arogant). When we reference a normal day or a normal evening its with "A" If he gets stressed and can't/doesn't handle it and reverts to "B" then the rest of us shift our plans and expections and it becomes "not normal " for my husband but it's a "new normal" for us and he removes himself to sleep until the next day where he'll try again.

 

[.Bubbles.]

GoHungry (how do you tag on phones??) - That is a good point. The types of people you enjoy spending time with, the types of activities you enjoy, can play into it. Spending 10 hours shopping for shoes isn't exactly normal in my eyes, but it is to many women. :D

 

[greenleaf]

Spending 10 hours shopping for shoes isn't exactly normal in my eyes :D

I don't understand...:wideeyed: I thought that was the minimum allowed time per week

 

[Friday]

Able to do everything I need, and part to most of what I want.

 

[intothelight]

Living without extremes.

 

[Notsowild]

Normal... Something I'll never be

 

[Britt.f7]

Normal would mean not worrying that people only think about how fat I am when I see them. Normal would be not being afraid to leave my house.

 

[Sandstone]

Normal for me would be to be able to have a party and enjoy dancing with my friends. It used to be so simple to do that, but just telling my husband that was a goal had me in tears

 

[Anrish]

Normal - to live without my unique style and just being one of many...