What Do You Really Think Of Others (with Ptsd) Who Have Less Trauma Than You?

[Eku]

I must admit I feel angry when I hear the drivel that comes from stupid teenage girls who think their boyfriend not talking to them is the end of the world. It's nothing, get over it.

It's nothing...to us. But they are in their own reality, and it does feel like the end of the world...to them. Teenagers are supposed to be immature and don't have a good understanding or grip on reality and their own minds enough to be able to keep it in perspective. As adults, it's up to us to understand that about them.

They are hormone bombs...and as much as their whining annoys us, it's still real for them. I don't think dismissing teenage angst is helpful to them at all. I know that it only made things seem worse and cause more upset when I was treated like my stuff didn't matter as a child.

 

[XXXXXoXXXXXX]

Actually I feel really different about people discussing this type of thing too. I just think of it as normal. Those are the type of experiences that people should be upset about. Noone should find themselves in a place where they are rather dealing with trauma. I think its healthy that they in their teenage space can talk about their hurt feelings when feeling rejected or not good enough. Especially as they are busy defining themselves and their space in the world and figuring out relationships.

 

[XXXXXoXXXXXX]

were telling ME that trauma is trauma

I have similar experiences I must say. What is sad is that I can't seem to believe them usually. Only with part of my thinking of course. My logical mind expects that people mean what they say and are honest. Its just my deeper instinctual thinking that discounts it, looks to see if others have an agenda or if they are just saying it as the right thing to say. I feel guilty putting those thoughts about others on them.

But this thread has helped me as somehow I believe people more because they are anonymous and because I am too.

 

[XXXXXoXXXXXX]

And even the whole "everyone reacts differently" can backfire in my hands as I think I must be weak to react to something that others have not reacted similarly too.

 

[Aseb]

I have always considered myself to be a lesser traumatized person. However I have worked very hard to face and deal with my issues. Still, every time I hear of somebody else's traumatic events, I get chills thinking about what they must be going through. I find myself thinking that my problems don't compare and I feel guilty for sharing the same affliction. But the truth is that everybody has different thresholds and no matter the trauma, it has to be dealt with in their case and lived with, just as it is in my own case. I feel initially I have to judge at first. That could just be a result of my own problems, trying to stay hidden and as small as I can.

If I eventually want to offer a hand of advise, I will realize that we are all here because there is a commonality. A illness that we can come together and share with one another. I always feel like a scared little dog when others first talk about their tragedies. I try to feel like offering a hand, and ear or advise does empower me a little but I might see the other person as unapproachable at first. New brave souls tend to trigger me back into hiding until I can find a little common ground.

 

[Ubamu]

I only get piss*d at those who SAY they have PTSD from things that technically can't cause PTSD. The one that comes to mind would get me flamed I'm afraid so I'll keep it to myself. Other than that, I tend not to compare traumas. Or at least I try not to. "Try" being the operative word.

 

[Lenik]

At least you are honest Ubamu.

things that technically can't cause PTSD

This is another one that occurs to me. I sometimes wonder if some would consider some so called legitimate PTSD experiences as not being able to cause it as it did not for them.

 

[Taniz]

And that was xxxx0xxxxx. For some reason I lost my identity.

 

[Taniz]

And did again... :confused:

 

[Hegu]

This is the all-anonymous-all-the-time forum. :)

 

[Pume]

I always felt stupid when I joined this forum because I always felt my experience was "not enough" to have caused PTSD, even though I was a tested certified member of the clan. I had one experience and it was hard for me to accept that I "belonged" in a group of people who'd had years of trauma or multiple traumas.....and yet, here I still am years after diagnosis.

 

[Taniz]

Hega, yes. But before I kwpt my xxxoxxxx identity! But now I am Tabiz it seems...

nd yet, here I still am

May I ask if you managed to get past it and how? Thanks.