What Does Your Therapist Do Or Say That You Find Helpful?

[eudemonia]

I feel better when he tells me that some of my thoughts and feelings and fears are not abnormal to my situation or to people in general. It helps me to feel less "different".

 

[Mit]

When she enables me to genuinely laugh, often at myself.

 

[Changing4Best]

She tells me about how she has solved a similar problem in her life, inviting me to try that solution too. It give me hope anyway, if nothing else!

 

[Friday]

I only saw him a few times, but he had this habit of saying "this piece". As in "Okay so there's an A-Piece." or "So we've got some XYZ pieces".

Insert my head tilt.

A year later... The habit is making sense. Pieces. Yeah. Different pieces interacting to form the whole. Dealing with one piece here, another piece here, repeat repeat repeat, because certain things are etched into multiple pieces in different ways. How the pieces fit together. Light. Bulb. OMFG. This I can wrap my head around. This makes sense. I often wish I could have seen him longer. Grateful as hell for the times I got to, though.

 

[Ronin]

One of my first therapists said while she doesn't know of anyone in the place we were that'd deal with my issues, to reach out. That I'm savvy enough to make it.

& that I've survived once; I'll do it again, to not stop being me.

She was so amazing I keep forgetting most of things but her subtle smile and concerned looks about those meetings. :P
Good point being she was my just-post-major-crisis, heading-into-another therapist, so what she said clicks deeply when I'm down, even when not accessible in normal states.

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes @Cashew that would explain why sometimes we can remember stuff, other times not at all. (State-dependent).

Edited To (try to) Add:

What I mean is, when I'd have a flashback (fairly rare), afterwards I could remember the details (what I saw, heard, smelt etc, physical details, the temperature ) & what I felt, usually I'd know one thing (emotion) I'd felt at the time of the original happening but there would be 3 or 4 emotions I could identify during the FB. I'd think I'd never forget (but unless I wrote/ write it down I can't remember). But shortly after I would still remember the details but say only one emotion again. However, the FB gave me details (info), showed me what I felt then & I would think also what I was at least partly feeling in the 'now' (even if it hadn't occurred to me to notice what I was feeling in the now until then, that is, not recognize or acknowledge it or name it (or be able to). )

But sometimes, I don't remember what I should, to cope or such. I guess that's the same in reverse, what I'm feeling is a different state than when I encoded what to do/ think.

(Hope that makes sense! :rolleyes: )

Thanks @Cashew. :hug:

 

[Casper1018]

I have been seeing my T for 2 1/2 years. She says and does so much that helps me that it's difficult to pinpoint what helps the most. She always believes in my potential to heal, encourages me to go outside my comfort zones and tackle my fears, and even says "good nite" via text to "Little Casper" when I am feeling alone and afraid to go to bed...

 

[jacx]

At the end of last week's session, my T said "There's really nothing wrong with you."
I said, "If that's true, then why am I in therapy?"
And he said, "Because you're going through something that no one can deal with alone."
Then I cried a lot.

 

[Cryptantha]

She reminds me of things we've been working on gently, helping me to fix bad habits like negative self-talk, not taking compliments/saying thank you when I do get compliments, and believing my judgement is flawed.

 

[Changing4Best]

I had one therapist who used to hug me at the end of each session. She was a big lady, so when she hugged you it was like getting a hug from your mother when you were a kid. I loved those hugs!

 

[justmary]

If I seem to get stuck in anxiety, she makes me do something physical to distract away from it. Ye...

I'm obsessive compulsive (not in a hand cleaning way, lol) so I find to deal with anxiety and fear I organize things. If I get in an heated discussion with my sig. other I will open a drawer and straighten it out, do dishes, fold blankets, lol It helps. I (we also my sig other) are both recovering alcoholics and he's been cronically relapsing lately so I'm tense a lot of the time.