What Gets Said During An Episode?

[Jagitu]

Supporters and sufferers alike:

What gets said to you, or what do you say to others while triggered and/or highly upset?

Yelling? Name calling? Insults?

Please don't hold back. I'd love to understand.

 

[Iceguh]

There's a lot of nihilism and misanthropy with me, but that's just me.

 

[Havib]

As little as possible.

 

[Ugih]

I find comfort in repetitive words. Please do not ask questions, now is not the time to ask what I need or what is helpful. Please do not try to engage me in anything that requires thoughtful responses. If I say insulting things it is because I felt backed ino a corner during a time that I am not able to communicate. In that moment, it is a desperate attempt to make higher levels of communication to stop. A question as simple as "How can I help?" requires more thought and a higher level of communication skills than I am capable at that time.

What I want is just to be told that it is going to be ok, in a calm soothing almost hypnotic manner.

 

[Unum]

I have to learn to do what Uigh writes here. I become like a trapped animal. Trying to stay calm, but since I havent learned how to set firm enough limits in some situations as an animal Ill start to growl and if the person in quest continue to push or situation is not solved Ill howl. Quite embarrasing and very destructive.

 

[Nabel]

My vet will lash out verbally and get aggressive... Think fight instead of flight. It can get ugly, but he's not a name-caller.

 

[Wowubon]

Anything and everything gets said. In my mind there is no conscious limit but upon reflection I do notice that there are certain low blows I will not deal.

 

[Upefi]

What gets said to you, or what do you say to others while triggered and/or highly upset?

I'm sure this differs massively from sufferer to sufferer, relationship to relationship, situation to situation...

What is that is getting said to, or by, you specifically that you are hoping to gain a better understanding of?

 

[Kalulo]

While I have found that when my sufferer is triggered I want to talk it out to feel better, he wants anything except that. He says a lot of " I can't, I can't do this, this relationship isn't working, I don't want to fight, we are always fighting" even the most basic discussion is too much. The littlest things I do are bothersome to him and he make me feel inferior like nothing I do is correct. It can be the littlest things, like the way I put my cup on a surface wasn't completely flat. He often says he just wants to be alone, he is better by himself where he only has to worry about him. I have learned to let all discussion go during this time. We can revisit again at a later time when he isn't feeling overwhelmed. It is difficult to ever differentiate what is how he is really feeling and what is the stress talking.