What Happens At Therapy When Time Is Out?

[Nicolette]

My therapist does this too. He never starts on time. He never ends on time. If we're talking about something upsetting and I've been crying, he never leaves anytime at the end "to put me back together" and I walk out feeling like a total raw mess.

It's probably a catch 22 for your therapist as while he stays with you longer then he holds up the next person. I find that even working for myself when people want to chat; you don't want to be rude and cut them off but at the same time you have someone else waiting for you.

I like the tactic Kers' therapist uses. I could talk to the cows go home so I guess there has to be some management.

I also believe if you go to therapy and want to specifically address something you should write a list and had it to your therapist on entry. If you don't end up talking about what you wanted to there is probably one of two reasons - avoidance or something else is bugging you more and you didn't realise it. That's just my opinion.

 

[Heather]

Yes, I've been thinking about making a list for awhile now. He asks me most times what we're going to talk about but I find it very hard to get started (even after almost 2 years with this man). I'm still all about avoiding. It's still so painful to talk about and I just don't want to feel it.

I haven't seen my therapist in almost over a month.... I'm just very angry at him right now. I've at least written down what I need to say to him now I just need to get the "balls" to make the appointment and give it to him. I've thought of switching to someone else. But honestly, that's not the answer (running away) cuz that's what I always do. I need to work it out with him no matter how difficult.

 

[Nicolette]

Why don't you try and write down what you are angry at your T about Heather... it may release the anger so you can go and make and appointment?