What Has Helped The Most/been Most Healing

[shimmerz]

EFT has helped me alot as well

Me too. Also Matrix Re-imprinting to get to the traumatized parts directly.

 

[EveHarrington]

I think we're all different so what helps one person may hurt another.

I personally found CBT to be quite helpful and didn't find it to be invalidating in the least. I'm also the person who looks for rational type solutions and concrete explanations for things and not so much just talking about feelings because that never fixed anything for me.

Improving my diet helped immensely. Taking supplements, too.

Exercising regularly.

 

[VioletButterfly]

I don't really have much to add as I'm rather lost in the forest again, but wanted to thank you for your post and for all of the responses. They've given me a lot to consider and some things to try.

One thing that I do find helpful is to always look for the light - no matter how small the point or the ray. I always seek the light and believe it is there somewhere when I don't even see any evidence. I find light in a variety of places. Sometimes, in the thoughtfulness of others, especially strangers. Most often, I find light when the Holy Spirit calls me from within or when God calls me from without to remind me that they are there and that there is a reason for my journey. Also, sometimes, it seems to help when I break things down to the smallest components and try to take on one part at a time.

Not helpful - I'm totally with the anti-inner critic crew. It's soul splitting! Also, unhelpful or destructive therapy (don't know that I've had any good therapy yet, but none that I've had has helped function better or that has left me in the emotional dust), dissociated and or double-minded thinking is very distracting, and isolation is very dangerous, but just part of my life right now.

 

[heyheyhey]

Oh I also want to mention the Headspace app, it's been awesome. It really focuses on bodily awareness and keeping focused and this allows me to let go of my thoughts and concentrate. I feel I NEED meditation daily right now, but before Headspace I found it too hard to concentrate and would just ruminate. You get a free subscription for a year with a charity called Anxiety UK in the UK (obvs lol).

 

[heyheyhey]

I think we're all different so what helps one person may hurt another.

I personally found CBT t...

Well said :).

What kind of dietary changes did you make :)? I'm trying to do the same. I realize when I get anxious, I can't really tell I'm hungry so I've been badly under eating which has obviously skyrocketed the anxiety aha! Trying to cram in a million healthy calories now :p.

 

[watundah]

Patience....Lots of it. I still growing weary of how much work I have to do but I see a kind, tender person taking up more space vs hiding all of the time. It's a long, slooowww, slog.

Nature. I have to get out and immerse myself in the trees and mountains. Studies show much value in what Ive known for decades.

Writing, journaling, art. Creative outlets I share in therapy.

Reading. Lots of books and articles about symptoms and treatments. Knowledge is power.

Talking with my spouse and best friend, sharing tiny slivers of this journey. Experiments in trust.

Trying, not always so successfully, to build a routine implementing tools like deep breathing, meditation, yoga - YouTube videos has helped with guided meditations.

 

[Changing4Best]

Being around people and not isolating. Socializing for me is a Godsend. Online and offline both, being with others keeps my mind off my troubles. It can be men or women, preferably Christians, but I do have or have had some folks who were not church attenders. They felt closest to God in nature and that was fine by me too. I am not picky. Just so long as the person is kind, understanding and keeps their promises, if they have made any, is all I care about. Also, if they respect my boundaries. That last is VERY important.

 

[EmmaOwl]

healing journey

Wow I am so...backwards. The phrase "healing journey" makes me feel inadequate. I seek help but I do not view it as a journey... I don't think people intend this when they say it, but what brings to my own (crazy) mind is : When will it STOP? And I don't ever expect it to stop. Until I die, I guess.

Wow that is my issue. I must say, I decided to post that the word makes me feel uncomfortable but I literally just this minute realized that's what I don't like about the word - in my mind, it acknowledges it's never going to stop. But that's what I want most! I want it to stop.

I hope someone understands this. I know it is irrational. Beyond that, I'm stuck. - I got stuck in my mind on "feeling suicidal" post.

 

[Hope69]

Wow I am so...backwards. The phrase "healing journey" makes me feel inadequate. I seek help but I do n...

I find that I sometimes need to really pick just the right word, so I can understand how a word can feel wrong. Its important to find that word that describes what you want, whatever that is.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Working my ass of in therapy, and pulling apart the trauma one at a time. Learning that anger, lashing out, and being shitty to others isn't helpful or warranted. Setting boundaries and sticking to them. Being responsible for my own behavior. Learning that life isn't always fair, but what happened to me, didn't happen because of me, it happened because someone did this to me. I had to stop blaming myself and being apologetic for everyone around me, and taking blame for everything that happened.

 

[EmmaOwl]

I find that I sometimes need to really pick just the right word, so I can understand how a word can feel wrong. Its important to find that word that describes what you want, whatever that is.

Hope: That is *exactly* what I was trying to convey.
If I was more brave I would start a thread about this - I love words! and I often say "I've lost my words" - lost to illness, lost to treatment...
Thank you for putting that so clearly; I feel like you wrote this just for me :)