What if nobody really cares?

[overflowingjc]

I am truly alone. Due to some cruel gossip, my family members have deserted me. I have no one. My reasons for living were my children. Now, those reasons are gone. I don't have enough inside me to keep me afloat. I feel empty and hopeless.

 

[ladee]

Welcome. This is a good place to start then. For one thing, when you post here, people read. They reply. So someone does care because we do understand that feeling of loneliness and despair. So, if nothing else, use the forum and the stories here to give you a little hope. Yes, many are struggling as you are. but that helps you to see you really are not alone in what you are feeling. try some of the things suggested here.. little things. Doesn't have to be huge and overwhelming... brushing our teeth is an outstanding accomplishment. And because we understand where you are. we also understand why brushing our teeth is a movement out of the hopelessness... not easy, but neither is being hopeless.... hope you find comfort and suggestions that are doable, and might even make a friend or two... we do understand.

 

[Ronin]

I have no one.

You still have you.

& If you don't have no one *now*? You can find someone later? Or find that you don't need to be finding, because you find alternative outlets in life that refill you, that give you meaning, where it wasn't in what you used to be and do before, there'll be you in some thing else.

I don't have enough inside me to keep me afloat.

What do you need to keep you afloat? As in what sorts of tools. Maybe if that's outlined, it might make easier for thinking of how to grab those tools, practically.

Welcome, in every case. Glad you found us. Please stay with us? I'd, for one, would love talking to you more, and I just met you.

 

[Fadeaway]

I just want to say you are not alone. I have been in your shoes. There are few things worse, but it can always get better. It doesn't go away, but it gets better. I didn't have a single soul for a long time, but people started appearing in my life and they will your too.

Of course on this site, you are never alone.

 

[recoveringfromptsd]

Your not alone you are here and most if not all of us if not now have in the past been where you are now feeling alone. I encourage you to go beyond the isolation and feeling alone and share more about yourself. You will in doing so find there are like minded souls here who share similar experiences and can provide support and ideas, and maybe fill that emptiness a little.

 

[Tornadic Thoughts]

Alone
All-one
Hmmmmm......
Glad you joined the community and reached out.
I didn't feel anyone else cared until I learned what caring really was, if that makes sense.
I had to learn to be the love I never received. Hardest lessons ever.
We care.
We share.
We hurt and heal together.
Hugs from my heart to yours.

 

[recoveringfromptsd]

@Tornadic Thoughts Well said in so few words.

@overflowingjc You have not said much about what kind of help you are getting currently or what your current state of being is.
I encourage you to use the members here as a source of support, reflection, and help if that is need.
Do you have a therapist? (on this site many refer to Therapist with the letter "T" and Psychiatrist with "PDOC"), if not you may be able to get help directly or information on where to find one by calling your local rape/abuse hotline, its a good first place to start. As they usually are not only well qualified to talk with about trauma, they would most likely be best equipped to direct you for proper care for your needs.
Are you at a crisis stage right now or having self-harm thoughts. If you are not I hope you can find the right help you need to start healing. If you are then I would suggest you let your T know if you have one or go to an ER or call a suicide prevention hotline. Also there are many PSYCH units that a trauma specific. Sheppard Pratt's Trauma Disorders Unit in MD is one of the best, there is one near Boston, MA in Mclean, and there is one in DC at Psychiatric Institute of Washington, there many others. Maybe considering an inpatient stay as a way to get yourself back on a footing you can start healing might be the best route, I know for me the time I spend at Sheppard Pratt's TDU is the best thing that could have ever happened. What I got there has allowed me to cope every moment with my PTSD, without it I probably would have ended up being admitted repeatedly to regular units.

Just some things to think about, feel free to solicit questions to the members here, we collectively have a lot of info and insight and support for each other.

 

[Tinyflame]

Sometimes one minute at a time is all we have to go on @overflowingjc .

I learned to say and used/ use, "Trust; Hope; Do not be afraid; I will not abandon you".

Welcome to you. :hug:

ETA, I do not know your circumstances or story but, re: 'Due to some cruel gossip my family members have deserted me'- that is not family. And the truth will out. If you need help, and they mean well but are going about it the wrong way, still get help. :hug:

 

[recoveringfromptsd]

You still have you.

& If you don't have no one *now*? You can find someone later? Or find that you don't...

AND YOU HAVE ALL OF US

 

[EveHarrington]

:hug:

 

[Helper]

Your family was wrong to believe cruel gossip over you and take away your children but the truth always comes out and you are not alone we are here for you.
And remember this storm will pass.

 

[The Albatross]

Other centered "nobody cares" is very detrimental to my own personal well being. Do I care? You bet I do. The pain is present... what strategy can you come up with to balance or rectify or counterbalance that?
It is there if you look for it.