What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[Mercy]

Cactus-Jack,
That is outrageous, absolutly outrageous. What ever happened to training advocates for PTSD clients? It certainly seems to be that she is totally clueless. Maybe you could suggest to her that she read Judith Herman's book Trauma and recovery.

Oh, O am pissed, really pissed. I volunteer with a retreat community which partners with people disabilities for 3 1/2 days. We are on retreat together just some of us can't talk with out a facilitator. That person is your partner. Whatever the folks can't do for themselves, we help always listening to how they like things to be done. It's commonsense politeness. Do you need me to brush your teeth or would you like to do it on your own. I hold the spit bowl. Big deal .

The physicaly disabled have their own list of platitudes. The worst one I know is, "Oh, well. You must have a gift of prayer,dearie." [DLMURL="http://www.ptsdforum.org/c/javascript:;"]:oops:[/DLMURL]Wheelchair does give them time. But how in the world can someone judge and patronize another human like that that. I have a friend without speech inteligible to us[DLMURL="http://www.ptsdforum.org/c/javascript:;"]:ninja:[/DLMURL], but most of the folks who have cerebral palsey get it on his first try. Why can't he be a pastor, an evangelist in his current setting, a fine and caring man. [DLMURL="http://www.ptsdforum.org/c/javascript:;"]:)[/DLMURL]He greats me by flaling all arms and legs together. It is the same way a baby meets its caregiver But Anjelo beats them, hands done.

Soory if I'm off target. Cactus-jack[DLMURL="http://www.ptsdforum.org/c/javascript:;"]:tup:[/DLMURL]

O_O_O-o-0-o, I am still pissed. Hey, world we need understanding. Wise I up, now would be a good idea.

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes, people may not have a voice but they speak in other ways. Or you can say (for them) what they tell you.

 

[Nighthawk]

You need to go out more often
Stop being so serious
I think you are over reacting

 

[Tinyflame]

Ya, it makes me feel like even if I'm over-reacting you're not helping matters that way.
Usually I don't react at all, then have SI.

 

[starry-night]

'Oh come on, it can't be that bad'. Exasperated doctor to me in the A&E, after being brought in for attempted suicide.

'You're lucky to be alive'. Consultant psychotherapist to me.

'I'd like to see a woman doctor. You can understand why that's important to me'.
'I can't guarantee that'. Primary care metal health specialist.

*Rolls eyes and sighs* 'All you ever talk about is xyz'. So-called best friend.

 

[NIKI]

Oh it wasn't that bad. Thanks mom, yeah it was!
Your not going to die. Thanks for the support dad!

 

[starry-night]

'Yeah, karma will get him for what he did'.

Yes, but what did I do to deserve the **** karma I got?

 

[scott_1971_h]

If I hear rehashing what should be in the past once more I'll scream.
Scott

 

[Crl1983]

"Shh, did you hear that? What was that noise?"

Whenever I hear those words I instantly panic.

 

[Heather]

"Maybe you should start drinking" - thanks mom that's a brilliant idea!:mad:

 

[Jen93]

"What's your trauma? What was so traumatic? (In an "Well? I'm waiting" tone) :rolleyes: Just tell me. Why can't you tell me?"
"That's bullshit."
"Get over it."
"It happened five years ago."
"You're going to scare people if you keep wailing like that."
"Think of all the nice things that happened while you were there."
"I DON'T BELIEVE YOU HAVE PTSD! I THINK YOU'RE DEPRESSED!"

These quotes were brought to you by the Mommy and Daddy of Jennifer, trademarked by In Denial and Clueless Inc.

 

[intothelight]

"Life's a bitch and then you die." Great thing to tell a depressed person.