Relationship When A Carer Gets Therapy-Did You Tell Your Sufferer?

[amethist]

My husband knows I have my own carer support, he knows I go to carer group meetings when I can. He knows all I do to care fro my own health. I told him from the beginning, as I could not cope with any of what PTSD throws at us without it.

He has always understood the reasons for all of this, as he tells me time and time again, he knows I would not still be here without it. This is, as we all know and understand too well, not an easy illness to cope with for any of us.

I honestly don't see this as a sign of weakness, (Not that I or anyone is suggesting that), more a sign of strength, that we do, as carers, find our own support/therapy. How else would we be able to let out all the anger, fear, frustrations or any thing else this causes us, without having our own support network.

Amethist

 

[nie]

I think you are showing how much you love her by doing this. By helping yourself, you can help the both of you. I hope that it went/goes well.

 

[Tinyflame]

Also possibly reduces her guilt or worry her presence is harming you.

 

[ISupportHer]

LOL, I have not always looked here lately. For those that saw my 1000th post, one of the TH's suggestions was to get more "real" friends, LOL.

I immediately PMed some and told them, "Sorry, I have to replace you. Nice knowing you" :rofl:

My second visit is next Monday. LOL, we'll see. I'm giving it a shot, LOL

ISH

 

[Tinyflame]

Hey far as I know ISH, I'm "real".. I think (?) :)

 

[Jawn]

Hey I'm real too! And if you poke me in the belly I will laugh like the Pillsbury Dough Boy!:rofl:

Actually, I know exactly what your T means ISH. Mine told me the same thing. In a nutshell to get out and enjoy life more instead of focusing on my spouse so much. So I have done a few things in that regards, but nothing real consistent yet. Dinner at friends house,
took a dance lesson, etc.

I think having your own T will help you. I know it has helped me a lot.

Jawn