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Depends on whom it is. The company in general (HR) only knows I have Generalized Anxiety Dis...

The truth is Lfs, it might make a negative difference.

When companies make cut backs the first to go are under performers, people who look like they'll leave for a better job anyway and people with disabilities that are a liability potential.

If HR knows you have generalized anxiety disorder then its possible you'd be one to get laid off.

In the future, there are ways to handle how to disclose that info to company bosses that prevent some problems and you can actually make it work for you.

I dont think anyone should hide having a mental illness or ptsd diagnosis from a boss, I'd like to see people in general be better informed about how to manage that info and HR departments .

Anything that can be legally called a disability and or have an official diagnosis is a giant pain in the ass for a boss that wants to get rid of you or just not work with your limitations.

Because of that they use covert methods to do it so they dont have to deal with anti discrimination issues.

They have one goal - they dont want to pay unemployment to someone with a registered disability that was unfairly terminated. Expensive boo boo for them.

If they like you and your job performance is good then maybe not!

I think you should work the support from your T that thinks your smart and should have gone to college, to go make a future that you deserve for yourself Lfs.
 
If HR knows you have generalized anxiety disorder then its possible you'd be one to get laid off.

I know and I faught supervisors that told me to take FMLA until I had no choice. To be fair, I dont if HR knows as the paper work goes to an independant company but the company knows I have FMLA for 2 extra breaks a day if needed.

It was either that or get fired for conduct issues.

What would you study if you went to college and had a clean slate, could study anything you wanted

Computer science. Likely networking at this point but if finish up on my C Programming, java scripting and so forth. I wanted to go into computer forensics (catching bad guys via their computers) but i not only needed my IT degrees but criminal justice degrees too. On average, 8 yrs. Florida State has the best computer forensics course in the State.
 
I know and I faught supervisors that told me to take FMLA until I had no choice. To be fair,...

What college degrees or credits do you have right now , just a few classes an AA degree from a junior college?

I have some ideas about how you break that up, without taking 8 years!
I did it, I had terrble time in school never finished anything, parents didnt care and none of my siblings or myself graduated high school.
All of us by age 40 have multiple degrees and complicated, very respectable careers.

And we still hate each other and we are still totally f*cked up!

If we did it, you can! :tup:
 
I wanted to go into computer forensics (catching bad guys via their computers)
One day, you should think more about this. Think laterally. Maybe you don't start in criminal justice, so you get the computer qualifications first and work in the private sector on IT security. Hunt down bad guys for insurers, private investigators, banks, etc.

If this is what you want to do, think a bit more about it. There are ways that you can get into pretty much any field by moving sideways, rather than typical entry processes.

You have nothing to lose, and a whole future ahead. Limitless time. Can you kick start this right now? Maybe not. Doesn't mean it should never ever happen. If you think about how you've got at least 30 years of working life ahead of you, instead of how much time you've lost, it puts things in a different perspective.

Just something to keep in the back of your mind;)
 
Zero. I have a high school diploma and the remainder is self taught.

I wanted to get certif...

How are you with general ed. like math and english. Would you be able to take community college basic ed. and get an A?

You'll want to get your Associates degree from a community college to get it out of the way. You can use disability and unemployed status to cover fees & books etc.
A lot of the classes are available online and you meet with teacher once a week or so.

Great thing about the PTSD is that it gives you ADD! Then your referral from T puts you on the 'special needs student body list'. which gives you perks like free tutors and extra time taking tests .

This won't take 2 years if you take a lot of units and keep taking classes in summer if you are not working.

If you have a GPA of 3.6 to 4.0. you'll get into a college that will use grants for women, disability, and low income whether its State , University or an online University the amount you'll actually have to get a student loan for is much less than you think.

Its really important to maintain a good GPA to get those perks. Start with classes that are easiest and use the disability tutors.
 
I don't want to diminish any of your fears, @lostforgottensoul - because you are laying out the realities of your situation pretty clearly. But there are a few things to keep in mind. I'm not bringing these up to try and put a positive spin on anything - they might not even qualify as positives. They are just facts.

I get its mainly voluntary but im under zero impression up to 3,400 people will go out voluntarly. Sure, the close to retirement, those looking to leave anyway, and the normal churn but i cant fathom 3,400 people nationally will step up. They are offering 130% severance to try to encourage voluntary.
So, first they are trying to get rid of those with the most seniority, the highest wages, and are offering incentives. This is nationally. I agree that in this job market, it's not realistic to think that 3,400 people will volunteer. However, 7-8% of the company across all departments - not just in one division - could be more people than you think, who are very close to retirement and are incentivized out. Without knowing the demographics for the organization, it's hard to say. But it's not 7-8% across entry-level positions.
To be fair, I dont if HR knows as the paper work goes to an independant company but the company knows I have FMLA for 2 extra breaks a day if needed.
It depends on how this all went down, but the reason there's an outside company that manages the paperwork is so that the employee can maintain some degree of confidentiality. Not iron-clad, but just something to keep in mind - that you don't really know exactly what HR knows. Maybe finding out would be good? I don't know.
it makes sense that the people the bring along with them will be the people that are well trained in IPTV (I just got trained in that product a few weeks ago) and the department that takes fiber calls.
So, you're not at the bottom of the pool, and you're not at the top. You're squarely in the middle, with training in a certain product set. You've got half that training, if I'm reading correctly, but you don't have the promotion to the next level. Sometimes it's better business sense for a company to get their top to voluntarily leave, cut the bottom because the least time is invested, then get rid of the high middle, because they earn more, and need to move a class of low middles (like yourself) up to the high-middle jobs for less pay. In other words, not pay you more, but give you more responsibility, and expect you to be grateful for having kept your job at all and shut up about it. I don't know if you are unionized, but if not, you could be better off being right at the level you are at right now. It's very hard to know how these things will play out, because they are dynamic. All this goes to say - there's literally no way to know who, and when, and how many. Spending too much time puzzling about it will only drive you nuts.

Which gets us to the bigger picture...you are going to need to be not working this job at some point, because you do have bigger dreams for yourself. I know that all hell broke loose on your life recently, but just before that you were trying to understand how to not be living with your dad anymore. It's a double-edged sword, I know, but it does have two sides. And there's never a good time for a big life upheaval - but when they come, they are always opportunities to have something change, and the change could be good. Looking into how to really get subsidized housing, temporary disability, increase your education/certification, live on your own - these are not bad things by default. The fact is, you were going to need to do this sometime in the next few years anyway, right? So, it's happening now instead.

You've done a great job coming down from your initial panic - and instead of defending all the reasons why it's impossible and it'll never be survivable, you're making a solid transition into opening up your mind to the possibilities of how you might make some next steps. I think for you, that's really pretty big. It's not always only about what we do to navigate change - how we navigate it is just as important a piece, so try and pat yourself on the back for not continuing to spiral down with rumination on all this stuff.

It'll be up and down I'm sure, coping almost never happens in a straight, consistent line - but overall, you're doing great with transitioning from big fear to person coping well with challenging realities. So, awesome :tup::)
 
I don't know if you are unionized

No. They have union employees (that make triple then I) but im not one.

not pay you more, but give you more responsibility

They have most certianly done that. I didnt even get a normal raise this year but got trained for a 3rd product. Their "flagship" product.

Im not really panicking due to pay. I know they will take out those that get paid more than I (on even tier) but im fearing that neon sign i placed on myself.

I dont know if school is an option or how id live while going to school (but would absolutly love to) and though i knew i wouldnt be a customer facing tech support agent all my life, I was looking at networking certifications first then to take a tour at their network station (it has a name but i dont remember it) and then seeing if i can apply there for a position. So i was looking to move up/half linear/ half completely different if you will.
 
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Well i was completely wrong. My dad couldnt care less. Im on my own with this. He wants me to leave my therapist of 8 years to go to Gainsville with him. Why? Whats in Gainsville for me but I bunch of headache and family drama and bullshit? I am NOT moving to Gainsville. Id rather be homeless.
 
Hopefully this is the only issue with my car.

My dad went down to the good and cheap mechanic we go to and got him to come out today (he is off on the weekend) and he said it was the starter. The battery is a little low but he said it should jump and it doesnt. I think one or both battery posts have corrosion on them but I can't see them. Whom ever made side posts that have rubber things all the way around the posts and screw on was retarded. So where the post meet the battery I cant see so i asked him to check it and put in a new battery if needed.

For the starter he quoted $130 but i tacked a few things on. Possibly a battery and then the air filter is filthy (its the cleanable kind) so to clean that and an oil change which is about a year over due. It needs brakes and 2 tires and some other stuff but my focus is to get it to start and keep it running.

So average high end maybe $300? Its better than $1500 or more for a new car. Though soon I want to cut off the money Im putting into it as this will be around a grand ive sunk into a $1200 car ive had about 2 years. Eventually it gets to be a bit much and its just worth buying a new one but Im not in a position to do that with the uncertianty of my job.

ETA: I forgot to say the mecanic left and forgot to come back today so he's doing it tomorrow.
 
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