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Relationship When Should I Make Contact?

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How's everyone doing today? Still no word from my vet, its been over 3 weeks. I'm hoping to hear from him...
I'm sorry. I was really hoping you would have good news. Nothing here for me and it's been over 4 weeks since I've talked to him, even though I have made an embarrassing amount of attempts to reach him! My last attempt was a week ago. I have done all I can. The hardest part for me is not blaming myself. I have to keep reminding myself what my counselor and friends keep saying. I did nothing wrong and I reacted the way the average woman would. HIS reaction was NOT what the average man would do. He is the one with the problem, and I have to accept that he was not emotionally available to have a relationship. I AM emotionally available and there are plenty of good men out there who would love to be in a healthy relationship with me. I will always hold out hope he will contact me since he holds a special place in my heart. Although I'm not sure he deserves it at this point! It is just very sad because I know had circumstances been different we could have had an amazing relationship! I just wish he would let me be in his life in some capacity. I know I could be just a friend who would care and support him if he would let me.
 
Endure,

Give him the space he needs and if/when he does contact you (and my guess is that he will once you've stopped trying) tell him you want to be there to support him. I told mine the same (except we didn't really break up), it's kind of a weird situation to be in, but I know he's not interested in moving on and neither am I (been there, done that, still came back to each other). Strange to be in limbo, but this time apart to grow and better both of us I'll sacrifice if it means we can spend our lives together. Just be patient. The more you stay away, the better your chances are of hearing back from him in the future.

P.S. You said "I'm not sure he deserves me" I'm sure deep down inside there's a great guy. It's easy to be angry and hurt, but after I've done research I feel better knowing that this isn't about me and how he feels for me, this is about him and his own demons. There's nothing we can do but stand aside and it's f*cking hard, I know. And we need constant reassurance and that's why I like this website.

Also, I just reread what I wrote to you, and it's like I'm writing this to myself, giving myself a pep talk.

Reach out anytime, I'm all ears.

Joanna xox
 
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