General When The Anger Demon Comes Out

[blueangel371115]

awww, that stinks. But that's good that you won't give up. Good for you (((hugs)))

 

[Cthulhu]

I realize that if a person is saying something that seems to indicate they could be a danger to themselves or others, there is a "duty to report" to make sure people are safe.

But then HOW can ANY sufferer who is likely to say something like that get treatment? I have read about the pathology, that it is common for sufferers to say things like "If I got out of control, it would be horrible/life-threatening/intolerable", which is how his rants go. The first time I heard it, I was shocked, but surely a therapist should be more on the ball than that?

He even had a legal agreement drawn up by a lawyer and signed by the therapist that no matter what the T heard in treatment he would NOT call the police. And then he did anyway!!

Oh I know that problem very well... It is the one and only reason why haven't even got a (c)PTSD- diagnosis (I don't self-diagnose me cause I know I can't, but the way I am and think and function plus the things I experienced over many years... Well, I'm pretty sure I would get one without any problem if I were able to even visit a person that calls himself psychotherapist AND to tell my whole story without getting institutionalized or worse.


One of my worst traumata includes being restrained against my will (as a small child), another being caught and restrained by a group of people who... did things to me. I cannot even bear the thought of getting restrained or confined by anybody, not for a moment.

I heard some stories like the one of your friend which really don't let me trust in a therapist's word.

He's had a lot of secondary wounding, with people not believing him, or causing even more trauma when he tries to tell his story

I experienced that many times in my life, beginning with my childhood until some years ago. I just stopped to try it, it just made everything far worse. The last times I tried I ended in angry outbursts like those of your friends, I won't hurt others or myself but I know that I would be able to if someone would try to restrain me in such a situation. Yes, I want to be heard and understood when something like that happens, but I also need the possibility to withdraw and be alone. I use it when necessary.

I think what's good for people in that kind of situation varies from person to person. If one finds those things for himself that surely is a first step. But I don't know how I could ever start a therapy... I have absolutely no trust in a psychologist's or policeman's word, so how could I ever talk about it?

I found my own way of dealing with it and it works, I think your friend has to do that, too. People with that big trust- issues cannot go a way which is dictated by others. He has to want it by himself.