When the triggers are almost too much: can anyone help?

[Tinyflame]

Dear Jesta- so funny, but maybe you are right, 'state-dependent'?

At this point I can't tell which is more problematic- the stressors or triggers, I can't quite wrap my head around what I feel- except to say I think the triggers reduce the level of stress-tolerance.
It's like also someone took 'my batteries out', or if I were a turtle they took my shell away (-can't believe I'm saying that, either :confused:)

(((Jesta)))

 

[Tinyflame]

Personally I believe that if you hit enough stressors you can get triggered.

I also wonder if what the mind tricks the body into when full blown Ptsd ie. shallow breathing, adrenaline shakes etc.
the body can confuse the mind with when they occur naturally, leaving us feeling on the edge of going full blown.

I wonder if this is right, too?
And (or) do the triggers make us sick?

It sort of feels like if I know there are triggers, I should be fine- so why am I not? :(

 

[anni]

I'm not sure we have an awful lot of control over that sometimes? I mean, we can deliberately expose ourselves to some things on some level and have it be a sort of exposure therapy where we'll slowly be desensitized so it 'works'. Other things just set off too much to be effective for this, I think, even if we're aware of it going into the situation. Maybe you're compounding your stress by being a little hard on yourself with ' I should be fine' ?

You're so aware of what's going on, and working so hard to overcome it all- do hope you're also remembering to allow yourself kindness. It's so much deserved.

I really liked Jesta's thought on this also- extremely thought provoking, isn't it?

 

[Tinyflame]

(((Anni))), xox :inlove:, thank you.-

 

[Nighthawk]

First of all ((((HUGS))) I wish there were a simple answer to the triggers and stressors that push us over the edge to this degree. I figure breathing, knocking myself out, smoking, hiding, self-verbal abuse, self-harm, grunting, screaming, crying are all just merely me screaming for help that no one can hear. I do not help the tailspin. I found that taking control of one thing even if that one thing is small and a simple task to complete, I can begin to convince my brain I am at least capable of something during this.
Ok I have no idea if this is of any help but I wanted to share I also don't want you to feel alone in your fight to hold on. Be kind to yourself. Please know I stand with you to try help protect and make you feel safer. I may not have the answer, but I don't like were you are and I want to help in anyway I can.
((((Junebug))))
NH

 

[OKRADLAK]

Very loud heavy metal music. Block them out. Or rhythmic instrumental music---loud, repetetive.....

 

[Tinyflame]

Dear Everyone, thank you, you are so right, to ride it out.
And anni- I never thought of that as an 'unrealistic expectation' but perhaps you are so right, because it helps to consider that.
Dear NH, you are such a kind and beautiful person, it does feel safer, to hear such a thing- not a lie.. I'm going to find a new 'mood'.:) (((NH))) You are so kind.
I hope I can be half as helpful and supportive if it's ever possible when its the other way around, because that means more than words can say.
xoxox

 

[revelry]

Junebug, everyone here is looking for the same thing ,help, a place to cry, a place to vent, a place that's safe, and more than anything a place to find support, especially when it seems like its no where else to be found.
You may be in a tough spot right now, but i would be willing to believe, that you have probaly helped people, more than you even realize. myself included :)
hugs.

 

[Tinyflame]

Thank you everyone, for such kindness.

Have realized all this 'stuff' of past few weeks was like the perfect storm- and I could see it coming in some ways but not in others. No, I guess I recognized part of what it encompassed but never took into account the whole picture, (triggers plus stressors plus health plus (bad) coping habits, etc etc etc).
Also I expected today to be the worst, and was very fortunate it was not like I expected it would be. So there's one mini-'YAY' :)

I am however always so amazed and humbled by how kind everyone is here, and forgiving and supportive.
My hugs and love to all of you.

P.S- Am going to change my 'mood', and since there's no 'thankful' or 'hopeful' (and not putting 'sex snack', lol), I'm 'going dancing' because that's good most times. :)

P.S.S- Revelry- can I ask what did you mean again, about 'just don't go too far'?, seem to recall that from a different thread, -did it mean avoidance/ running away? Thank you!

(((((ALL, xoxox))))

 

[OKRADLAK]

HI June--

Yes, it is hard when triggers cannot be avoided. I sustained a kind of injury that had to become part of my new post trauma self (it was part of what caused my PTSD).It cannot be seen.

It made me panic for almost an entire year of a solid panic with no relief day or night. I have no idea how I survived.

I still hate almost everything about me now but I have times when I have a decent day. Two is pushing it. I never have 2 good days in a row, but the thing is that I guess I have learned to live with triggers. Not all the time, but I try to cherish the good days.

 

[Tinyflame]

Oh Dear OKRADLAK, I'm sorry, that indeed is very difficult. You are very brave. I am fortunate in that some of mine (that I live with daily or near-daily) have lost some of their impact, provided I'm not really overtired or sick.

Yes, I think we have to learn to really 'be' in the present- that very moment, when it is a good moment and not a bad one.

I pretty much hate everything about myself too, but I don't care as much if I can have a moment of peace. But I am sure there is much of you that is beautiful and good. It's part of the ptsd talking that convinces, or tries to convince, you otherwise.
(((OKRADLAK)))

 

[anni]

I'm not putting words together well this morning, Junebug but wished to stop in and say that I'm humbled all the time at the kindness one see here. I've been here for awhile but it's something you never quite get used to, is it? You get so used to sort of flinching 'out here' when having to come in contact with others too much it takes some getting used to that it's not necessary here.

xxoo

Anni