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I posted less than a week ago about the situation regarding my ex-girlfriend being robbed at work and then breaking things off with me less than a week later. I'm not entirely sure if she has ptsd or anything even close, but from what I have read, there seems to be some similarities with what she went through and the symptoms of those with ptsd. The main one being her distancing herself from me, and then promptly breaking up with me less than a week later.
This post seems to me as sort of selfish, and I'll get to why I think that shortly. I tried to contact her last week about what went wrong, and why she decided to end things so abruptly even though things were great until the day of the incident. She avoided the question, and then ignored my later text asking if she could elaborate on what went wrong, so that way I had something tangible to accept as my hamartia, I guess.
It still bothers me not knowing what went wrong, but I have this unshakeable feeling that it was due to her being robbed at work. Her avoidance of the question, and then even physical avoidance of my presence (which I have tried to minimize as much as I can) shows that she doesn't feel comfortable talking to me.
In the research that I did about ptsd, if the symptoms last more than a month, the person is considered to have ptsd. Now, I really care about her, whether or not she reciprocates those feeling towards me ever again I want to help her in any way I can. I've generally tried to be avoidant of her just so she can have her space, of course, I did break down last week and text her.
The reason I think I'm being selfish regarding this situation is because even though I want her to recover from her experience, I would like, at the vey least, to gain some peace of mind about what happened between us. And, if it does end up that she can't pinpoint a certain cause, or that it could be the incident that she went through, then I could at least try to tell her about what I found out about traumatic experiences, and give her some knowledge so that she may better understand what happened. I haven't spoken to her, and I don't see her much outside of the one class I have with her, so I don't know how she has been acting around her friends or family members, but I do know that there was at least one intimate relationship that she ended recently after the robbery, which is with me.
What I'm trying to ask, after this long exposition, is when would it be a good time to contact her again; maybe her not avoiding eye contact, texting me first? If the symptoms don't last much longer, then I believe she will have partially gotten over her experience, and possibly be willing to talk to me again, but I am not an expert in these sorts of things. Or maybe I'm just a heartbroken mess that is wasting everyone's time here, and should probably just move on. If it is the latter, I sincerely apologize for my desperation, and potential insensitivity that might be implied from my posts here.
This post seems to me as sort of selfish, and I'll get to why I think that shortly. I tried to contact her last week about what went wrong, and why she decided to end things so abruptly even though things were great until the day of the incident. She avoided the question, and then ignored my later text asking if she could elaborate on what went wrong, so that way I had something tangible to accept as my hamartia, I guess.
It still bothers me not knowing what went wrong, but I have this unshakeable feeling that it was due to her being robbed at work. Her avoidance of the question, and then even physical avoidance of my presence (which I have tried to minimize as much as I can) shows that she doesn't feel comfortable talking to me.
In the research that I did about ptsd, if the symptoms last more than a month, the person is considered to have ptsd. Now, I really care about her, whether or not she reciprocates those feeling towards me ever again I want to help her in any way I can. I've generally tried to be avoidant of her just so she can have her space, of course, I did break down last week and text her.
The reason I think I'm being selfish regarding this situation is because even though I want her to recover from her experience, I would like, at the vey least, to gain some peace of mind about what happened between us. And, if it does end up that she can't pinpoint a certain cause, or that it could be the incident that she went through, then I could at least try to tell her about what I found out about traumatic experiences, and give her some knowledge so that she may better understand what happened. I haven't spoken to her, and I don't see her much outside of the one class I have with her, so I don't know how she has been acting around her friends or family members, but I do know that there was at least one intimate relationship that she ended recently after the robbery, which is with me.
What I'm trying to ask, after this long exposition, is when would it be a good time to contact her again; maybe her not avoiding eye contact, texting me first? If the symptoms don't last much longer, then I believe she will have partially gotten over her experience, and possibly be willing to talk to me again, but I am not an expert in these sorts of things. Or maybe I'm just a heartbroken mess that is wasting everyone's time here, and should probably just move on. If it is the latter, I sincerely apologize for my desperation, and potential insensitivity that might be implied from my posts here.
