When You Don't Think Your Therapist "Gets It"

[brokenchild]

I've looked at a lot and none of them seem to take insurance. Maybe I just won't go to therapy anymore. It's almost bee a waste of time for the most part anyway.

 

[anthony]

It can take a bit of trial and error to find the right therapist... and they do need to be a trauma therapist, otherwise you won't get pushed in the right directions, instead another therapist may actually enable you to a point by being supportive, instead of pushing you past your fears to face your trauma and life.

 

[brokenchild]

I'm trying out a new therapist tomorrow that is supposed to specialize in trauma. I'll just have to see how it goes.

 

[Iam]

Glad to hear it Brokenchild. I hope this new T is a good fit for you. Wishing you all the best!

 

[brokenchild]

The new therapist seems to be a better fit. She seemed to "get it" but time will tell for sure.

 

[Iam]

That's good news bc, I'm really happy to hear it. :) I think Trauma therapists are trained to get it, so the big ? here will be do you connect with and trust her and as you said "time will tell."

 

[Artista]

Know how you feel. I had/have a wonderful therapist but since my fatigue and heart issues, no way to really get to her. Am considering a phone call therapy session but it just isn't the same. I also can go to the Crime victim Center and have free counseling in the interim but how do you start over like that....

Hope your new T is a good fit BC!!!!!

 

[Elphaba]

I hope you get along well with your new T!

I had a bit of a "revelation" today. I kept thinking that T doesn't get it. Then I realise that I don't actually SAY it, most of the time. Somehow it all leaves my mind and I keep saying non-descript and pretty vague things. LIke I took a day off work because I just couldn't get out of bed because of the ptsd, but at the T I didn't even mention it. I just said "busy" when asked how my week's been.

Hm. Well. My T is a student and I am new to therapy all together. So it might just be me.

 

[seedling]

Yes, I think part of the "fit" comes from us. No matter how good some one is they are a stranger to our personalities and to the things that we are comfortable with and assume about how our minds work. They need information.
I find this hard to give sometimes, esp. given how PTSD operates.
Good luck BC.

 

[brokenchild]

Just an update on the therapist situation. I've seen her twice now, once more since my initial visit. I definitely think she gets it. Just her reacting the way she does, and doesn't, is comforting as well. She even finished one of my dysfunctional thoughts about needing to "deserve" things.

She also said something that I had never thought of. I was telling her that since I tihnk I deserve to suffer, I know i won't kill myself because my suffering would end and I don't deserve that. I told her that I worry if I stop thinking I deserve to suffer that I will try to kill myself. She said she could see my predicament but what if I believed that I deserved to live and not suffer. I'd NEVER thought of that before.

Anyway, even though I've only seen her twice, I think she's the best therapist I've had.

 

[Iam]

I am so glad BC. What a difference it makes when you find the right therapist!

 

[Heather]

sometimes I feel that way too. That my therapist just doesn't get it. he doesn't have a f**king clue. for instance when I told him about my abortion and how when I got home my mother never said a word to me about it and we never spoke about it since.

He just looked at me and said in a very flat tone of voice "some families just don't talk about stuff". He said it like he was selling me aluminum siding. I wanted to punch him upside his head. Somehow I don't think he'd be so calm and nonchalant about the whole thing if it was his wife or his daughter that we were talking about. It's just infuriating and so dismissive.