Well, real people and therapists are two different buckets. Real people who I love and trust ( hello? Party of one? ) it helps me considerably to share my feelings because she listens, responds and usually says the right things. When sometimes she misses cues or isnt extremely sensitive (no pressure) then I get my panties in a wad.
I used to want to confide in my sister but she would follow up later in a gossipy nosey tone and couldn't get the supportive part right. No more personal info dumps for her.
Other people, I feel Im giving them ammunition to use against me. That is a big issue I need to dig into. Trust much?
Lastly, the therapy thing with her over there and me over here and you know everything about me (you wish) and I know nothing about you is a hard game for me. But Im started to get a pretty good grasp.
So the rule book seems to be a pretty thick one with different guidelines depending on what you show me emotionally, how many tests you can pass and did you meet my satisfaction on how you handled the tidbits I threw at you.
I used to want to confide in my sister but she would follow up later in a gossipy nosey tone and couldn't get the supportive part right. No more personal info dumps for her.
Other people, I feel Im giving them ammunition to use against me. That is a big issue I need to dig into. Trust much?
Lastly, the therapy thing with her over there and me over here and you know everything about me (you wish) and I know nothing about you is a hard game for me. But Im started to get a pretty good grasp.
So the rule book seems to be a pretty thick one with different guidelines depending on what you show me emotionally, how many tests you can pass and did you meet my satisfaction on how you handled the tidbits I threw at you.
