Where Does Your Pain Go When You Let It Go?

[Tinyflame]

Yes @Ragdoll Circus , it hardly feels irrational (post-ptsd anyway).

 

[hodge]

Yikes, I'm glad I read through all the posts here. I started getting freaked out that maybe my pain would transfer to others, as if it were some kind of virus. I'm still not convinced that pain might have a life of its own and roam around, but I was glad to read the more sober messages about this.

 

[Tinyflame]

I don't think pain itself has a life of it's own (but Idk). I just know we cause each other pain. I think it's pretty easy to say, if the situation were reversed, how would I feel if what I do was done to me, & what would I think of the person doing it? What conclusions would I draw?

 

[Deleted member 28403]

@hodge
Mama hodge, really, don't worry. The less you are hurting, the less are people aorund you, and thus pain is disapearing, or if you want another analogy. Think of it like this, pain takes energy to create, but once it's gone, that energy can be used for creating happiness and nice stuff :) The less pain, the more happiness, for you, and others :hug:

 

[Ronin]

I'll keep that '... into a bottle and shipped to wide far sea' reference on 'into whatever that means coping and then I don't give a f*ck because it would be away from me for the moment'.

So, layers. Physical? Some stays, only lessens with time. There goes the coping and soothing and healing.

Metaphysically speaking? Into strength & awareness & being able to learn from it, hopefully. Not always, not guaranteed, not without own trying.

 

[maelstrom]

I just want to say that this is a really interesting question.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think pain drains energy.

 

[ladee]

Wow, what interesting experiences here with this question. @sun seeker - I do not hold on to the pain... that was part of the question. the pain I had already let go of.. and I would let go of that gossamer thread and to the stars it went. I guess I wanted it to mean something. And I think for me, my pain , especially at the beginning, was tangible...It was so heavy to carry all that, it had to take the form of rocks or the description I used. Different pictures for different pains.
I know I contaminated my son. There was no way around that. I take responsibility for that. In the way of healing, and making sure my granddaughter does not know that crazy woman. What he does with it today, is up to him. He is 45 yrs old. We have had many conversations thru the years, of me taking responsibility for my own craziness. And carrying around guilt that was counterproductive... but I had to walk there in my journey, to understand that it was not getting me down the 'healing road'....that's another conversation.
From my heart, I appreciate those that said I make a contribution here... That brought tears to my eyes. In a good way. Because when I post something. I am thinking of the person I was talking with. And then I let go of the end result. If it doesn't reach the person I am speaking with, maybe someone else will get something from it. But to be acknowledged, to be 'heard' !!!!! don't know if I will ever get used to that. And in a way that is a good thing.. because I am surprised and honored when that happens... all over again. New each time... That is pretty awesome to me. So thank y'all for that. It is very appreciated !!
So many thought provoking answers here.... so much to think about now... seeing what I will take. what I need and leave, what I will incorporate into my own journey.
I hope there are more posts about this.. It is awesome to me to hear how each of you view this and how you let it go. Onward on our journeys... thank the Powers that be, I am not alone... gentle :hug:'s to those that will accept.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think your pain @ladee means something, because you mean something, as does the value of your life and your voice. I am glad for your image and relief/ healing. (I always loved shooting stars. :) )

I suppose if I had to describe what it feels like when that occurs, I would say it 'dissolves' or disappears (think 'Poof'! , & traces of smoke, = equals gone), or a cool hand/ cloth on a fevered head (= still present yes, but some relief/ reduction of pain). So I guess my pain reduction would coincide with removal, or overcoming with good(ness)/, comfort or softness?

:hug: :hug: :hug:

 

[ladee]

Good point @Junebug, something for me to think about here. Am I still 'attached' to the pain in some way. That I have the need to make it tangible??? It doesn't feel like it. I think because I am an artist that things can be better understood, by me anyway, in the form of pictures. Even if they are only in my head...
From now on tho, I will always see falling stars as someone letting go of pain... I love having that picture in my head. Thank you for sharing..and thank you for saying I matter.. That is priceless to me.:shy:

 

[Tinyflame]

I think pain comes from thoughts, too, like fear (anticipatory or otherwise, which can go back to hypervigilance, safety, etc, loss), self-rejection/ bad self-concept, etc; mistrust (sometimes anxiety), etc. So it doesn't necessarily 'go' as is corrected?

I was cross-posting, but just to let you know I only also say what is I feel is true. :) :inlove: :hug:

 

[ladee]

Thanks @Junebug, deeply appreciated.
The intrusive thoughts, I call them 'monkey voices'.... just chattering away, screeching sometimes... like monkeys do, but for the most part I let them chatter... if something gets my attention... then I do what it takes to find out, tend to it and move on....and for me, at this point in my recovery, those things you mentioned are things that I do pay attention to in the sense that they are telling me to be more careful, pay attention to my surroundings or the people in my space. I feel that for people who don't have to process every freakin' thing, that is their normal... like, pay attention to the guy with the really freaky eyes over there !!!! Balance, seeking balance... sending you :hug::hug::hug: