Where Does Your Pain Go When You Let It Go?

[Deleted member 29920]

I love this thread. Yes I forgot the pain release via tears too, but it seems they could fill an ocean :cry: it doesn't help to hold it in. No more foetal position for me...

 

[Tinyflame]

(((((((((((( @Cj77 ))))))))))). I mostly never cry, not in public. I surely try not to, we were encouraged never to (that was 'brave', far as I remember). I too am afarid if I started I couldn't stop. :( I'm sorry. :hug:

But hey, @ladee , I learned today, if all goes (miraculously) well, it's transformed to joy; specifically heartbreak to joy, despair to hope. :)

I have more to add but must run this second. :hug: :hug: Xox.

 

[ladee]

Maybe it transform to inner peace. I rarely feel 'joy' @Junebug.That is a feeling that eludes me. :alien:
I do have Hope tho... so hmmm.... will give this some thought. I would really like to know it has been transformed into something that has made me more human.:wideeyed:

 

[Tinyflame]

Oh Dear @ladee , you're a SSH-Super Sweet Human !! :inlove: :hug:

I do think pain can make us bitter, or sweet-er. (Apparently so can middle age however!)

This is really cool: I rarely have hope, but sometimes I have joy.. we can figure it out/ compare notes together. Maybe we can fill in each other's 'holes'? I do know that joy comes from happiness + surprise, & hope is a weak word in English, it means more like (faithful) expectation.

I was told today to 'try to/ (try it)' transform heartbreak in to joy, so I did. (Since heartbroken is my baseline, without sounding ridiculous about it that is so- seriously). But anyway, I did. :)

Also I decided to give my sister a birthday celebration tonight, 2 weeks early, but it accomplishes a) add some joy b) I don't like to wait and c) she doesn't like to wait. Lol. So why not. :) (Won't derail your thread, but was going to say nothing goes better with a sliver of cake than a bottle of wine, lol. ) Seriously though, maybe it's different than 'letting it go', though I'm not sure how to transform 'it', exactly. Do you have any ideas? (The gossamer ribbons and star(s) seem to suggest so. :) :tup: :hug: )

 

[Nikie]

This thread made me think about so many things !!

First thing that came to my mind was the movie " inside out "
Its a kids movie .. About how this girl handle pain and how big a small thing can become if we don't have control of this pain..

If we don't have skills to cope with this pain, humiliation, guilt, blame etc we just suck it up, and it stay's inside and with the tiniest trigger all of this just pop open like a valcano.:banghead:

Then second i thought pain is silence . pain only grow in silance ..

What if?
we ( that already experiance this pain) make people ( kids) understand if you keep quiet :speechless: the pain grows.

What if?
YOU had the knowledge when you were mistreted, harassed, humiliated, beat up, molested, tricked, raped etc to speak up and not be ashamed if this harm somebody else have to be ashamed of. Would you still had to steugle trough this!!??

What if ?
You can teach kids that if you share this pain ongoing pain will stop..

I do no know where pain goes .. If pain stop u create more ...:meh: some days I feel like if i have to go with out that I can not go on.. This is all I have created for myself ... Its been a week maybe 2 my husband have not yelled at us.. I feel lost... Even more useless than before ...

That's why I joined anarchy's dbt skill training to get the skills I need for the day to day life .

Thank you for this thought :hug:

 

[BlueOrange]

I choose to believe that pain is the body's way of directing healing resources. Therefore, when the healing process is complete, the signal 'Send Healing Resources!' gets turned off. Similarly, partial healing can partially reduce pain. Right at the beginning of healing, the healing alarm can get louder, which is annoying sometimes.

 

[ladee]

@BlueOrange, ok, that makes sense...thanks for sharing this... :tup:
If nothing else, others will read here and get some ideas of how to let to, of how it feels to let go, and what others feel happens to the pain.. I appreciate all the replies... has given me some wonderful things to think about...

 

[Tinyflame]

I imagine it doesn't go anywhere, rather deep inside, just as everything experienced & remembered is encoded in memory. Just depends what is nearest the surface to feel or express.

 

[UnKnown-Self]

I don't think the pain goes anywhere. There is negativity that is released and contagious, just as there is love that can be collectively felt. But pain, while feels very negative and can cause us to react in negative ways, IMHO is not a negative energy that goes out.
Pain when resolved transforms into wisdom and strength. Pain is caused by denial and fighting the lesson. Why are we fighting what needs to be learned? Is it denial that those we trusted and loved betrayed us so? Is it accepting our self worth and believing the lie that causes the pain? Pain's purpose is to get out attention, saying you need to find your own truth and accept yourself.
I must have a hell of a lot to learn

 

[lostforgottensoul]

It gets converted into strength.

I agree with this. It doesnt go anywhere but is transformed and changed into strength, happiness, joy and other good emotions.

The memories intergrated correctly so they are there but the good memories are in the forefront and the bad ones no longer affect our daily lives.

So it goes no where, its changed.

 

[oasis2003]

wow this is a good thread ! I think it is just bad energy that is put into the cosmos. Energy cannot be created or destroyed , but it transforms into another type of energy. So hope fully our released pain will be some one elses joy. I am just pleased when I can release some pain. It is just energy to me .

 

[Gadgie]

Aye! Oasis, if that's the case, I hope that when I release all my pain, someone else will be laughing for ages!

(Just a humorous thought that came to me when I read your post, not meant to offend)