Poll Who Traumatized You

[scott_1971_h]

Yeti has NPD. That doesnt mean she has a mental illness. That means she's just mental.
Scott

 

[Srain]

My father the psychologist 1st
CRIMINAL and knew what he was doing as he had years of training and went on to get his PhD and counseling family with children.

The next were criminals with personal reason- abduction/rape of 2 little girls under 10yrs old.

The rest are emotional but the first two are significant, my mother with my father, I see her as my father's second in command.

 

[Rob_Dog19]

My answer isn't exactly an easy one to explain. Ultimately, the person who molested and raped me for 5 years did know that what he was doing was wrong, but he was confused by his own abuse...it's complicated. He had been abused by a family member sexually on top of physically abused by his father, and ultimately, CPS decided that his abuse of me was "childhood curiosity" since he was about 15 when he started. The other person who molested me, however, did know better. He was an adult who I should have been able to be safe with, I can only assume that he is mentally ill...

 

[jasmin]

Mother with paranoid schizophrenia.. in and out of treatment. From birth onwards.. also probably violent brain damaged father from 0-2.

 

[Kb3]

The guy who left me awake during surgery was high on something. He treated me absolutely viciously when I came around and I attribute that to the drugs too.

I was also traumatised by the surgeon who dislocated my hip when he fell on me while attempting to hold me down.

I was traumatised by him and the consultant anaesthetist who denied it all.

The first guy was on drugs. I still don't really understand what the other one's problems were.

 

[jo may]

I repeatly ask myself why I let myself believe a man his age was interested in a girl of 13. He did it because he could and that's what it comes down to. I believed his lies and I loved him so much but it was all BS.

 

[bittersweet]

My abuser was a person who I had known for years and was considered to be a friend. He seemed fine up until the moment he raped me. He feels no guilt and feels what he did was fine.

 

[LoyalOne]

I voted 'did not know it was wrong.'

My first boyfriend grew up in a neighborhood where all the guys had underage girlfriends whom they had to 'break in' with date rape. He assumed girls didn't want to lose their virginity, so it was no biggie when they fought and got upset. He just aplogized with jewelry, convinced me it was normal (by pointing out all the guys in his neighborhood), and kept me. And since my parents never talked to us about sex and pretended it didn't exist, I had no basis for comparision.

When I finally wised up and broke up with him, after realizing crying for 45 minutes in the shower and flinching all the time when touched were not normal, and that the guys in his neighborhood were a bunch of creepy criminals, he was devastated. Completely devastated. He asked me to marry him. At fifteen.

I chose to forgive him, because he was my age, a virgin as well, and had no healthy frame of reference. But I sure as hell wasn't going to keep dating him.

My family still has no idea. Neither do most of my friends. By the time I realized I should have said something, it seemed there was nothing to say. I never ratted him out. He is a decorated Army Ranger now, so I hope my forgiving him means some lives were saved.

 

[Orsino]

Both were pretty much strangers.

The first was a hit and run accident my friend was killed in whilst I watched, and the second I was stabbed by a person I had been pursued by for a while beforehand.

 

[Deleted member 10686]

this was a hard one for me to answer. my abuser could fall into a few of the answers, I suppose. i ended up going with criminal behavior- self serving motives... He is a sociopath, and though that is a mental illness I do not feel like he deserves any kind of sympathy.... I think he knew what he was doing was wrong, but convinced himself it wasn't? I don't know. He is a sexual sadist and tortured me for years. So I guess I will stick with the criminal behavior answer...

 

[myself]

I voted "Person Had a Known Mental Illness" because all of them did, but what they did was by all means Criminal Behavior and should not be considered anything less then criminal just because they all had knowingly has illnesses and knowingly choose to not take their meds or get treatent, and choose to be abusive. Just because someone has a mental illness does not mean that they should get away not be considered criminal. Tangent... Wow, I think this pushed a button.

 

[TSG]

The person who was the most recent and most devastating had criminal intent, though I had no idea. He was someone our family had called a friend for over a year. We welcomed him in like family. He was 63 years old (though not a frail old man at 6'2 and 260#) and I always described him as a "quiet Southern Gentleman". He was very well mannered, polite and selfless (we thought)...until he kidnapped me at knifepoint, sexually assaulted me, beat and cut me then grabbed a loaded gun, convincing me I was going to die before my husband rescued me and got the police. It was not until later that we discovered he had already murdered two people (one his wife) by shooting and stabbing them and had tried unsuccessfully to stab another, in addition to a rather lengthy criminal record of various crimes.

Thankfully, he will not do so, ever again. His first murder he was acquitted of, his second he got manslaughter and served 6 in prison, then got a full pardon on all. The attempted stabbing he got a bit of jail time and most of the rest were a few days in jail or errors in investigation resulted in toss out of charges. With me, he got 2 consecutive life sentences and additional sentences of 15, 25 and 25 years on top of them. He will never see the light of day outside of prison. Most days, I think I would trade what he got for what I got. I think my prison is worse.