General Why Don't I Make Time For Myself Every Day?

[Ladyhope Somerset]

Just wondering why I don't make time for myself every day. Most days I find myself thinking as I drive home from work, 'I'd just like to stop for 15 minutes to take a walk or look at the sunset'. This would do for me, surely I should be able to make that happen. But it might be easier to achieve by starting the day with that 15 minutes.

Why don't I do it? There's never enough hours in the day and I don't like getting up in the morning.

 

[Jimmy1]

Hey RG, you just have to force yourself. You really need 'You Time'. Thats one thing I try to insist upon with Margaret.
The other thing is PTSD. "They Say" that if you live long enough with someone with PTSD, you can sort of contract some of the symptomology of it. So be careful girl.

Have some time out.

Jimmy

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

Made time for myself today, met with a girlfriend for lunch. It's been a lovely sunny day here in Somerset, England and it was great to have some company. We've met up 3 or 4 times over the last year I guess and it's good for both of us!
My man encourages me to go but I feel a bit guilty about it.

 

[nomedic1]

Dont feel guilty, I think thats one of the biggest problems I have, my wife feels guilty about needing things for herself. I think thats why I kept it hidden for so long and some days wish I had kept it hidden.

You deserve YOU time, a little bit of laughter and fun with "normal" people.

 

[Jimmy1]

We are normal people. We are just normal people who don't get along with the other normal people in this world, some of the time. And other times we are normal people who want to punch the living shit out of the other normal people. And then there are times when we are just like normal people, but with a disorder.

 

[nomedic1]

Nice one QLD, I just love the "normal people" who judge I have a group at work who don't know I'm PTSD they were bad mouthing a guy who is known to them as being PTSD. Got myself into a bit of strife telling them they should look at themselves as they hadn't stepped outside of an office ever in their lives. At least this guy had served his country done the dirty work others wouldn't do and was trying to live with his demons.

 

[Jimmy1]

I agree mate. I think the whole worlds perspective is changing now. I know the perspective of guys currently in the military has. When I got back from Iraq in 06, I had no idea what was going on, and my work mates thought I just needed more of a break. Once I was diagnosed and they were kicking me out, it was a totally different ball game. People thought it was contagious. Now there is a whole new mental health unit purpose built in the base here in Townsville. They had to do something.

Jimmy

 

[Toria]

Hi RG - it's a tough one I know. I felt exactly the same on Friday night... and I sat in my car in Sainsbury's car park on my own for 10 minutes - at least you had a sunny day! Link Removed I would say make the most of the time you have away from the "situation". I've been feeling so trapped just recently. It's not that I don't want to be with my husband - but he's not the man I married and that's the hardest thing for me to accept.

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

Hey RG, you just have to force yourself. You really need 'You Time'. Thats one thing I try to insist upon with Margaret.
The other thing is PTSD. "They Say" that if you live long enough with someone with PTSD, you can sort of contract some of the symptomology of it. So be careful girl.

Have some time out.

Jimmy

Thanks Jimmy, hearing you say I have to 'force' myself to have my own time, really hit the spot hard. It's not a word I ever use.

The spotlight was definitely switched on this weekend because if I don't make this time for myself I've realised it increases my anxiety. I want to prevent this negative spiral so if there are any carers out there who would like to join me in mutual support with this I'd be glad to hear from you.

 

[willis williams]

uk wife, as a PTSD sufferer yes we are not the men that our beautiful women fell in love with. I aplaud the women that can stick it out. My ex wife could not the drinking, anger, verbal abuse when we faught when we could have just argued. I should of known what I was doing to the relationship but I was blind. The relationship I am in now I make sure to say go spend the day with your girlfriends. Go out dancing with the girls. I have learned that am not going to loose her. I was never worried about another guy more on the line of bad things paranoid things. Comes from the things I seen happen to women and children. And when she gets more her time she is happier which helps keep a positive balance that kinda offsets my mood swings. This is good because the kids are happier she is more atentative to my frog (the baby in the picture) and that takes away a stressor of mine. When I am in an ass of mood she takes the kids and goes to visit a friend. I think any PTSD sufferer would want their partner to have recharge time and to enjoy life because god knows we can drain a lot out of them. If we are honest about PTSD we need the help of our partners and I think I would rather have one fully charged when I crash. You are our hearts while ours is broken. Thankyou to all the partners that beat their hearts for use. And for Gods sakes live your life you are important to, no one should suffer PTSD for someone else it is our burden to carry. Always remember you can never make anyone else happy if you are not happy. TEX

 

[Toria]

Wow Willis - that's some post!

RG - I don't think I live anywhere near you otherwise I would have loved to get together.