Why Is Breaking Conditioned Behaviors So Scary?

[deer_in_headlights]

Hi Hon,

I found, at first, breaking my conditioning, to be very frightening. I was afraid I would lose all sense of who I am as a person.

What you lose, when you dump conditioning, is the awful stuff of how you perceive, relate and navigate within the world. Those wrong directions are very good to shred! It's ok, because there are great resources to help you create healthy new ways of thinking and being.

One of my best resources for breaking conditioning, is one of my trauma Ts. She's a slightly older, very wise and a mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically healthy woman. She's shed :poop: in her own life, and is living an amazing life. She's a great model, and a delightful challenge to work with. She point-blank lets me know immediately when I'm thinking from past-conditioning and instantly works with me to discard the :poop: and learn the healthy response.

It's fantastic! I could never have dumped conditioning without someone like her to spot it, and help me see, correct and practice healthier ways of being.

I know she has my best interests at heart, so I don't get offended or upset and instead jump happily into this life-transforming, wonderfully-challenging elimination of as much conditioning as we discover:joyful:.

It's all good! Frightening at first, but if you can see it more of a fun challenge to gain a new life, I guarantee you'll be eager for each session, and do a victory dance as the old prison structure comes tumbling down.:woot::joyful:

:hug: Deer

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I think you hit the nail on the head when you mentioned being ready, mabe you are not ready to do this yet. When you are ready it will natural and normal for you. I think my concept of myself also changed for the better and I am now meeting healthier people, not many, it takes me a year to really get to know someone.

It takes time to heal from the woundings of the past. I think this is a great thread.

I now know sooner where to get away from a immature person now. I need to trust my gut instincts more because I still tend to ignore the red flags but then I catch myself and get away from the person and just ignore them, and move on.

I think when you are ready you will feel it and know it. I wish you the best.

Taking a time out to heal and to recover is the best thing you could do for yourself right now I think.

 

[TXbandit]

Taking a time out to heal and to recover is the best thing you could do for yourself right now I think

I think you are 100% correct. Thank you for wishing me the best. I wish you the best as well :)

Thank you all for replying, the advice and little of your own stories. :hug:s I wish you all the best as well.