Its easier for someone from an Army background to understand because they take a civilian with any type of self esteem and spit them out with high self esteem at the end of a 12 intense basic training program. The way the military do it is specific to them, though the self esteem is high from the majority of all who come out. Typically if someone has a low self esteem they will not make it through such training and be weeded out during the process.
It is hard to replicate such intense training to increase anothers self esteem without putting them through such training in the first place.
You see the problem with civilian aspects is that unless pushed by force beyond every physical and mental boundary, a person never knows just what they can achieve. The word cannot is no longer recognizable, instead its try and give it 110% before thinking of an alternative.
Just remember Evie that what your doing is progressive work. You can see for yourself your own personal results over the last year of your life. Use those positive results to continue pushing negativity and doubt from your life and shift yourself where you want to be, nothing more, nothing less. It is like a person who is just depressive in nature. It doesn't matter how much you work with them, they are happy being depressive, so they will remain that way. Those around them either accept that or remove themselves from that person and behaviours.
Your doing just fine Evie.... and you did answer your own statements above; being not so much that you must step back from things, but simply stop where you are and look around. If negativity exists period, you must identify it and work towards how to remove it from your life. Then continue forward. No need to go backwards in order to go forward from your point, just pause and look around a while if required. Its a constant game of push and pull basically that we play with ourselves. We push ourselves, we stop, we push, we stop. Each time we stop we look around beyond what maybe we just think and try to find everything that could affect us negatively. Then we push against those negatives for resolution, attempting to find a better way to achieve what we want without the negativity in our life.
Just remember Evie.... keep up the great work as your doing very well. Remember, it takes years to work at this, and even then it is constant work, just not as much. Use what you have achieved to motive you and guide you. That is the key to continuing your own self growth. Learn, educate.... take what works for you and throw the rest away.
