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This is very useful to be able to then go on to describe how it is (I have PTSD) to my boyfriend, who hasn't yet grasped why I think the way I do. A simple way I view it, is, especially at a young age, people are very impressionable. Our brains are metephorically like a ball of clay split up into multiple pieces - all relating to something. For your example of the rolling pin (but in a different context) a child might never see a rolling pin in their life, or they have but they do not know the use nor do they know exactly what it is. When, later in life, they come in contact with a rolling pin which is then used to abuse said person, they will from there on out associate rolling pins with abuse.
I can use my own example; I didn't have much experience with men as a child, I had a 'father' growing up to the age of 5 but I was abandonded, which then started my abandonment issues and my association with that men and people abandon you when they get bored (exaggeration but I have thought like this before). They when I was a little older, the idea that men also abuse (sexually and physically) was engrained in my brain which has lead to a seemingly irrational fear of men, however, it is perfectly rational and logical to my brain to have this fear of men since I have not yet fully experience a wide enough variety of kindness and normalness in men to counteract the fear. This is because fear is an extremely powerful feeling and once it is engrained in your brain, it is very hard to eradicate.
TL;DR - like what Whitneys Story said, our environment and our experiences (especially at a young age) shape how we think and act until we experience a new and changed, permenant, environment.
Just my two cents. ^^
I can use my own example; I didn't have much experience with men as a child, I had a 'father' growing up to the age of 5 but I was abandonded, which then started my abandonment issues and my association with that men and people abandon you when they get bored (exaggeration but I have thought like this before). They when I was a little older, the idea that men also abuse (sexually and physically) was engrained in my brain which has lead to a seemingly irrational fear of men, however, it is perfectly rational and logical to my brain to have this fear of men since I have not yet fully experience a wide enough variety of kindness and normalness in men to counteract the fear. This is because fear is an extremely powerful feeling and once it is engrained in your brain, it is very hard to eradicate.
TL;DR - like what Whitneys Story said, our environment and our experiences (especially at a young age) shape how we think and act until we experience a new and changed, permenant, environment.
Just my two cents. ^^
