Why would she lie about needing space from everyone, when it’s just me.

[Frustrated1518]

I’m getting very frustrated. I was told that she needed space from everyone in order for herself to heal. That’s understandable. Very understandable. But when I see her talking to other people, talking on the phone laughing, etc, it makes me feel like total crap. I’d rather her just be honest with me and tell me the truth. Is this a common thing? It’s been like a bit over two weeks since we’ve talked, longer since we’ve texted. This entire thing just sucks. I don’t want to get upset or angry with her, but it’s hard not to when your feeling are being hurt.

 

[EveHarrington]

Who are you in her life?

She may not even understand her own needs at this point.

Taking space from one person is a million percent normal. No two people are the same. No two people influence us in the same way.

 

[Mygfhasptsd]

I understand what you going through...although every case is different..I did go through something similar..but I get it now...she might need space from you,as you will give her certain emotions and feelings that she is not ready to deal with at this moment...
Spending time with others might be OK for her since they are not that close to her..
What you need to realise is that she will need to do whatever now that makes her happy..we are not that important and we either be patient and if we can't deal with that, feel free to discuss that with her...let her know how it makes you feel and see if she can do something about it or not..
Good luck..its very stressfull

 

[grit]

In order to love, one needs to loosen the grip. Her laugh should make you happy cause she still i has it. Your frustration at her freedom to laugh is your own unmet needs from the past

I am sorry if my words are too direct. Love does not mean never have a great moment without the object of love.

Be happy for her and you will feel your energy change.