General Wife With Long Term Ptsd. Need Help. Need To Talk. Need Courage...

[Unknown Person]

Thanks for the encouraging words. Unfortunately, last night turned to make the rest of the good day not so good. I hope things go well today as well.

Hospitals are not so good to my wife as well (hence the reluctance to admit her). It's not quite a trigger for her, but she has had lots of bad memories from hospitals, so it makes her very anxious.

I believe you when you say that you've come a long way. It gives me hope for the future.

Thanks again.

- U

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Sufferer.

I understand the triggers of a hospital Unknown Person. It is scary to be hospitalized I wont deny that, it is scary and different but it saved my life twice. I had to face it and I had to do something about it. When I came out I was in a much better place and I looked differently at hospitals after that.

I want to say that she just needs to face that trigger of hospitals. Facing that trigger is better then suicide if she doesn't get help now.

Wishing you and your wife that best. Remember to take care of yourself.

 

[ISupportHer]

Just a quick comment from another husband. I don't often tell people "I know how you feel" but then there are times like this that I feel I do know at least some of how you feel. What is different for me was (yes I used the past tense) that my wife had many, many admissions over about 3-4 years. So, in some ways I am further down the path than you are, perhaps.

I would first say that Safety Trumps Everything. If there is a threat of self harm, then that has to be taken seriously.

I did not know what to do when I uncovered a written reference to self harm. Not going to say more than that in a public forum. Did I do anything immediately? No. I was hesitant for many of the same reasons you have felt. I knew a person on the hospital ethics committee and those 3 words are essentially what I was told.

Can I promise you that all will be fine? Of course not. What I CAN tell you that even when things seem hopeless, there is hope. This does not just mean that your wife gets the help she needs. Of course that is important. Hope means that YOU have to take whatever steps necessary to examine how you feel about all this and what part you play. This can mean seeing someone yourself if that's what it takes.

For what it's worth, I feel for you as well as your wife and hope you find your way.

 

[Unknown Person]

Thanks, ISupportHer. I appreciate hearing from people that know what I'm going through, even if its just to the smallest extent.

I have hope.

- U