Sufferer Will It Ever Get Better? Trauma At Work

[orchidbird]

Hi Pg

Sorry I didn't respond to some of the things you said directly to me, I have been struggling also. I thought about private messaging you but then thought that might be a bit stalkerish! :eek:So I hope you don't mind me posting here.

How are you doing now? How is your back?

I am so pleased you had a lovely time in Devon and congratulations on all the walking, I find being outdoors and space can be beneficial.

I think what Pietro said was spot on, treat yourself with the same compassion you would treat others with. You are just as deserving as they are.

So many things you say sound like the things I say to myself, I'm sure I'm not the only one. I have found acceptance to be really helpful, all be it difficult and I can't always maintain it but a good place to get to.

I hope you are having a better week.
Best wishes
Ob x

 

[psychology girl]

Hello all! I haven't been on the site for a while but I thought I would check in and see how everyone is and for an update.

Things have been up and down for me since I last was on here although mainly things are better:-)

My doctor has reviewed my medication and I really feel like I am getting my anxiety a bit more in control now which feels amazing. I even managed a trip to the supermarket the other day on my own and it felt liberating! It was such a bizarre feeling. The only way I can describe it what if felt like when i was a child and my mum and dad let me out to town with my friends for the first time on my own -I felt so grown up and I had such a buzz that I was being let loose on the world! To some going to the supermarket may not seem like a big deal but for me this is really huge and is encouraging me to try and go further.

I am still having difficulty sleeping hence why I am sat on the computer at nearly 3am British time! I keep feeling really consumed with anger and bitterness which I know isn't really going to help me but still, I feel an array of emotions all the time, some confusing and so overpowering. I guess this is all part of the recovery process.

Oh and finally, it looks like I am getting my operation for my back so fingers crossed I will finally be in no more pain with my back injury!

I hope you are all doing really well,

Much love,

Psychology girl

 

[circe47]

Sorry for your ordeal, psych girl-

It is good that you are pursuing a claim against your former employers. Here in the states if something like this happened, there would be something called Worker's Compensation whilst you recover, and then a small lump sum depending on injuries. Is there any kind of program like that in the UK? Not only would I seek damages for the personal injury, but damages and compensation for lost employment and future earnings.

I can relate to feeling like you are never going to be the same again. I struggle with that too. Fortunately or unfortunately, depending on individual perspective, one can never be the same again after going through such a life altering experience. That is what it is.....a life altering experience that changes everything.

I get tired of people -therapists and certain family members- saying to "get over it" or implying that if only I join support groups or force myself to socialize it will make me somehow magically healed. Personally, I think it is impossible to go back to who we once were because suddenly you have been forced without choice to become much more aware of the dangers of life and sociopathic people in general.

Becoming a different person isn't necessarily such a bad thing in and of itself. I know it has made me both more compassionate to the suffering of others, as well as more careful for myself. I used to put myself in all sorts of stupid situations because I didn't have my wits about me due to distracting activities, drugs, and alcohol. Situations that could easily have turned out really, really bad. I got lucky, but that didn't mean I always would have if I had remained my old carefree, reckless self.

I think the key to the social anxiety is striking a balance between paranoia and out and out carefree lifestyle. On that note, I have whittled down my social circle to my household and two outside friends. So, I'm not completely isolated, but don't make best friends with every stranger I meet either. This seems to work because I am not totally alone, but also have plenty of time with myself to heal at my own pace.