Will You Be Alone Christmas Or... ?

[aut555]

I happy if my holiday is abuse free, company is secondary. That is more important than anything else.

 

[illusionist]

Too true @aut555

 

[Anrish]

I'll be at my parents' place until the 25th December - not because I want to be there but because it's what is expected. I'm always glad when I'm able to leave in the afternoon - and enjoy the second Christmas Day alone in my flat - just reading, doing some sport and taking a long bath. I don't like it to be forced to spend time wiht my family.

 

[The Albatross]

Mister and I will be alone for Christmas, both families are excluded this year and actually we're looking forward to it. It is the first trio of holidays (Thanksgiving/Christmas/New Years) that we've been off in like 9 years. He picked one and I picked one (after Thanksgiving) to give as a gift to each other. But it's a sort of selfish thing for us this year.

 

[Changing4Best]

I'm sure we can all relate to that, @aut555

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I had a good Thanksgiving alone, I had a deli tray and a pecan pie and watched movies and only felt lonely alittle so I plan a repeat of it Christmas Day.

I am invited to a friends house for dinner on Christmas Eve.

I understand the feeling that comes on holidays of loneliness. I hope that you will be able to create your own special day and be able to enjoy it.

 

[Changing4Best]

My therapist suggested today that I come up with a plan in case I get no invitation. She said go to the grocery store the day before and buy a meal that I can reheat or something and listen to some music that I enjoy while eating it.

I did find out that there will be one restaurant that plans to stay open on Christmas. It is connected with the only motel in town and is quite a ways to walk to, but I could walk there, weather permitting. So I might venture out and do that, if it is not too bad weatherwise. We shall see.

My other option is to make this turkey breast that was given to me for Thanksgiving by the Salvation Army. I had a place to go that day, so I have not gotten around to cooking it yet. In fact, I kind of have forgotten just how to cook a turkey. I have a recipe for a whole turkey, and I think there are some directions on the package, but I would have to defrost the thing a day or two in advance. So I have to wait to see what the weather report forecasts on the days before Christmas, to make my decision. I know I cannot make my decision at the last minute, as it would be too late to defrost the thing then.

Decisions, decisions....

 

[BuckarooBanzai]

I live alone and will most likely be alone on Christmas (again) this year. I would like to spend Christmas with family, but we are not close.

What I do is lots of things that remind me of every happy Christmas feeling:
- I put up Christmas lights in my bedroom (!) so I can go to sleep with happy Christmas-y feelings.
- Go to Lessons and Carols at a local church. Sure, I will go alone, but I will enjoy it all the same.
- Am thinking of joining a group at a different local church that will be wrapping gifts for homeless and needy children.
- I will put out cookies and milk for Santa, just as I did when I was small.
- I'll lie in bed on Christmas Eve and remember how I used to stay awake all night waiting to hear Santa and his reindeer land on the roof.
- If possible, I'll drive through neighborhoods that are known to have extensive Christmas decorations.
- I'll watch my favorite Christmas movie, The Bishop's Wife (Cary Grant).
- If I can afford a tree, I'll put one up.
- I will hang my hand-made stocking, the one my aunt made me.

I don't like being home alone on holidays, because I miss my husband (who died in 2005)

How about making it a point to do all the Christmas activities you used to love to do together? You will think happy thoughts of him as you do so. There will be plenty of good memories.

This is really why I want to put out cookies for Santa this year. My brother and I put out cookies and milk (for Santa) and carrots (for the reindeer) every year. My father would, in the middle of the night, eat the cookies, drink the milk, and then write us a thank-you letter from Santa. My father passed away about six years ago. Putting out the cookies will be a happy way to remember him and include him in my holiday.

why not invite others?

YES!!!!! Who cares if you live in a small place? Christmas is not a contest!

 

[Heather]

I'd like to be alone. can I tell everyone in my life to go away?

 

[Changing4Best]

@Heather, yes, by all means, you have a right to be alone on this holiday if you so choose. Shutter your windows and close the blinds, draw the curtains and don't open the door if someone rings. Don't even peek out to see who it might be! Be safe.

 

[Changing4Best]

Our Kris Kringle Gift Opening party yesterday cheered me up quite a bit. You can read about it here in SOCIAL and you can see what all of us got from Kris now too! Well, some of us were not yet able to take photos, me included, but you can read about it anyway!

 

[Changing4Best]

WOW!!! Guess what? A lady at church has decided to have a Pot Luck dinner after church on Christmas Day!!! I won't be alone for Christmas Dinner after all. I am so thrilled! I am so grateful. Thank the Lord Jesus. And our church is having a special prayer event Thursday evening for those who are missing loved ones who have passed away. It is called something like Silence and Solace. So I will be going to that also, as it coincides with our Thursday evening fellowship meal which we usually have each week. It was to be cancelled for the two weeks of the holidays, but they are holding it anyway, because another church from the next town over agreed to cook it for the two weeks that other churches had cancelled. So yes indeed, prayers are being answered.